My Style of Mothering
This is a piece about my relationship with my son. My style of mothering is strict. I was brought up strict as a child. I think I turned out okay. At times it made me very sad as a child.
9/4/2004
My Style of Mothering
My style of mothering is strict. I was brought up strict as a child. I think I turned out okay. At times it made me very sad as a child. I spent alot of time in my room. I feel I am strict now with my son. Right from the time he was born people were telling me how to raise him.
It seems everyone has their own take on parenting. I feel I am hard but also fair and I'm a good mother. Many people have told me that I am. The thing is, sometimes, I feel like maybe my son was spoiled in a sense. He is an only child, so he tends to get what he wants. On the other hand, now that he is getting older, I try to make him contribute more to the household.
I was always there for him as a child. I even decided not to return to work, in order to raise him. It seemed so much easier to discipline him as a child. There were the time outs and numerous scoldings. However, to me, they were not so useful. Now that he is getting into his teen years, it just seems to get more frustrating. Now he wants more freedom. He does get a certain degree of it. He goes to the corner store himself. He can go to the neighbors himself. He can go and play in the nearby field with friends. That is the extent of his trips.
In this uncertain world I feel instilling certain respects, morals, and habits into a child is very important. Although sometimes it can become a bit too much. I am such a perfectionist myself that I expect it from others. My son feels like I come down on him too much. He feels I am yelling at him. I am just trying to get things across to him.
Through all the years there has been one constant that tells me I have done a good job. My son is a good kid. He gets excellent grades, is smart as a whip, is popular among his peers. He amazes me with his thoughts and communications and has for some years now.
I may be strict and protective with him, but in some small way, I think I have imparted on him some lifelong lessons.
Amber Whitman.
My Style of Mothering
My style of mothering is strict. I was brought up strict as a child. I think I turned out okay. At times it made me very sad as a child. I spent alot of time in my room. I feel I am strict now with my son. Right from the time he was born people were telling me how to raise him.
It seems everyone has their own take on parenting. I feel I am hard but also fair and I'm a good mother. Many people have told me that I am. The thing is, sometimes, I feel like maybe my son was spoiled in a sense. He is an only child, so he tends to get what he wants. On the other hand, now that he is getting older, I try to make him contribute more to the household.
I was always there for him as a child. I even decided not to return to work, in order to raise him. It seemed so much easier to discipline him as a child. There were the time outs and numerous scoldings. However, to me, they were not so useful. Now that he is getting into his teen years, it just seems to get more frustrating. Now he wants more freedom. He does get a certain degree of it. He goes to the corner store himself. He can go to the neighbors himself. He can go and play in the nearby field with friends. That is the extent of his trips.
In this uncertain world I feel instilling certain respects, morals, and habits into a child is very important. Although sometimes it can become a bit too much. I am such a perfectionist myself that I expect it from others. My son feels like I come down on him too much. He feels I am yelling at him. I am just trying to get things across to him.
Through all the years there has been one constant that tells me I have done a good job. My son is a good kid. He gets excellent grades, is smart as a whip, is popular among his peers. He amazes me with his thoughts and communications and has for some years now.
I may be strict and protective with him, but in some small way, I think I have imparted on him some lifelong lessons.
Amber Whitman.
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