Asking someone for a date

It has been seen that for a lot of men, the meeting phase is a intimidating, ego-busting experience. The ordinary thinking for an average guy is that he has to speak a few self-enriching affirmations, and march up to a strange woman with a well-worn line. This approach rarely works. It is a special case if you happen to be Brad Pitt with a Ferrari. Not only is this kind of thing annoying and scary to women, but most guys are so afraid of rejection that they practically bleed nervousness and lack of confidence, which is instant dating suicide.

A man can learn many things from women. He can act exactly like women to impress them. Don't get confused. Have a look at this. The best way to meet women is to do what women do: position yourself to be noticed -- let them come to you. Men who are successful in the dating game don't chase women -- instead, they let themselves be found.

You have to go to places where women hang out health clubs, yoga classes, cooking classes, special interest groups, etc. Go to the places where you can naturally fit in and get noticed by women. Also the places where the same women return to on a regular basis. Find the places where conversations are easily started. Places where you can casually interact with women and let them get to know you and feel comfortable being around you.

Now you have found the answer to the question why so many couples hook up at work, because they spend a lot of time together in a shared environment. Once you're able to gain access to a group of women, you can single out the object of your desire and slowly build a relationship by having fun and being yourself.

So if you're currently frustrated by the lack of available women in your life, this is a great strategy.

Asking Someone for a Date
It seems simple enough, but it can be the most difficult part of a date.
So what do you do?

Once women start to notice you, you're going to have to start talking to women. Here's another area where a lot of men fail. Some guys are so focused on the possibility of rejection that they freeze and can barely speak coherent sentence. They're so unsure of themselves that they wind up masking their natural personalities. Some are so desperate for sex that they don't even bother trying to get to know a woman and wind up completely turning her off.

Asking someone for a date is very important. That is your real first impression. Make your conversation for asking very casual. Don't use those worn out lines like "Would you like to go with me." It's too open-ended and can lead to awkward follow up conversation.

Try to find out the interest of the person you want to ask for a date. Try saying something on the lines like if he/ she like some sport to watch or something like you would like to go at some beautiful natural place and if he/she would like to go with you. Do not ask, "What are you doing Friday night?" It's again too open. It may leave your potential date wondering exactly what you have in mind. The other person doesn't know if you're just curious about what she/he is doing on Friday night or if you want to do something with them...

Or if you're really uncertain or uncomfortable about getting together - go with a group. Ask the question: Hey, there're a bunch of us going bowling on Saturday. ask if she would like to go.
The operative word here is "us." It immediately takes the pressure off."
Planning activities to do on your date and getting together in a group are good ways to go
If you're busy or there are a bunch of other people in the conversation, you won't hit awkward silences and won't have to talk all the time if you don't know your date very well.

Try to relax and enjoy yourself - worst case - they'll say they can't go out and you'll find someone else who will. Someone who appreciates you.

Women love confidence and can smell desperation a mile away. The trick to revolutionizing this dating skill is to forget about yourself, forget about the outcome, and concentrate on establishing a rapport.

All of a sudden, you'll be aware that she's hanging around you, laughing at your jokes, asking questions about you, sending out clear body language messages, and dropping hints about where she and her girlfriends go after work.

The message here is to pay attention -- she's handing herself to you on a plate. Even if you're terrified by the thought of taking the risk, listen to your gut -- if you think she's interested, she probably is. But when you ask, do it casually -- confidently. Don't appear desperate -- act as if you're the catch, not her.

Now the main thing is how to contact her! Women generally don't prefer to give their phone number. Try something other than this. Don't ask her out by leaving a message on her voicemail. If you're really scared or really in doubt about the whole thing, ask for her e-mail address. Most women think this is "safe" because it's such an impersonal means of communication.