LIFESTYLE CHOICE: The choices people make!

Our Choices
There comes a time when everyone has to make choices. Some people excel at the art of decision-making while others don't. There are several reasons for this distinction between the good and the bad. One of them is our understanding and our academic training of deciphering between the right and the wrong. Then there are situations that help us deal according to our lessons learned in life. But all in all the reason why we choose to believe some things as bad and something as good is thanks to our perceptions of things in general. It has been observed that our carefully etched out choices are the ones that give us utmost satisfaction. Taking marriage as one of these decisions would be one such example. As much as we might detest and squirm at our choices from time to time, it's also important to note that this choice of a life partner is one that has been taken after much thought.

The others choices made in a state of anxiety or in a confused state of mind, or probably due to compulsion, are ones that make us learn the lessons we do in life. It would not be right for me to term these as the worst of all decisions, but after every sermon that it ends in, these wrong choices do give rise to numerous instructions that life teaches us, which might otherwise be left unattended. Let's take an example to prod this theory a little further.

Let's say that you are angry now, and by that I mean terribly angry, not just a wrinkle or two donning your forehead! Here it's your choice, really, to be angry that is! Somewhere deep down you do believe that this is probably the way to handle the situation; but in retrospect this was one choice that you made in haste! In effect, this is really, a compulsion! Operating on a compulsively on a different level. So you're living by choice, and these choices are made without awareness, sans a reflection before letting it affect you in the manner that it should. We can therefore say that these are unconscious choices.

Understanding these choices
This whole lecture stems around just one aspect; of dealing your life by the choices one makes! It's important to note that these are also an instant reaction to perhaps your moods, the situation, and your emotions; even your hormonal imbalances! The whole idea that we are trying to drive home is our conscious mind at work while making these choices. For example, a simple act like waking up in the morning; it's an unconscious choice that you want to sleep for a few minutes more. When the sun arises your first impulsive reaction is to pull over the sheets a little higher over your face.

It's an involuntary act demanding you unconsciously to doze off for a few minutes more. Your physical body wants to remain in the bed for some more time, although your sense of timing is intact. It's easier said that discipline should be your way of life, but it's your decision to act upon this. And thanks to the dire need to wait up a little longer, ultimately getting totally dragged by lethargy! When you make blunder, you're actually making the wrong decisions at the time when your sense of decision-making should be at its peak!

Life if full of the limitations that you experience and in the many ways that don't make you consciously aware of what you're looking forward to. Within this term and tenure there may be many hurdles that seem as hurdles, but these are actually your new chapters in life! God has this untimely effect on you to catch you unaware and make you deal with the worst situation, especially the one that you have so far refrained yourself from!

If you've mentioned it loud and clear that you hate a particular thing or a particular person, you'll notice that nine out of the ten times you have been given the situation to work only with that person, whom you detest. Here again, it's your choice of pursuing the task more effectively without any hassles or getting hassled in return. Nature has its own way of teaching the worst lessons in the best possible manner. One clear-cut example of discipline is the occurrence of the night and the day.

It religiously takes place and allows one to understand that like the shades of darkness, the light too has its own charm. Like the times which were most trying for you, the darkness too needs to be cast for you to get some breathing space to think about the damned situation. It's your choice then to come up with the best way of dealing with it. The more effective you are, the more reason for you to ponder over it and thereby come to its solution. Generally if you've noticed, these ideas and observations seem to flock your mind only as you age. Ever wondered why this happens?

Well, for one you've never had either the time or the inclination to deal with it! And this has been the situation because you haven't dared to let off the past choices that were made in haste by you. Let's say tomorrow you've planned to go on a picnic, you'll consciously want to arise before the sun does! In other words you've made a conscious decision to live your life according to the situation you are faced with. With life it generally doesn't happen until you've crossed the wrong paths only to discover the right! Consciously you decided to look up on the chores to be dealt with on the previous day and excited as you may be, you don't realize that waking up and getting geared up for the next day was a well planned choice that you just made.

Ascetic paths are never understood by the younger generation unless they chose to tread on them. These paths are either considered too boring or far too beyond the young thought and action to be dealt with! Naturally if you've wanted to enjoy life, you need to work for it. If there aren't any choices for you and you've been squandered with everything that you need, you'd only be happy for that moment; after a time there would be dollops of boredom lacing your time, wherein you're lost and without a vision. While age also has its rules and you don't always get before you've really deserved it, it's also true that while we are setting up our goals, the art of decision-making and making choices comes handy.

Simply accomplishing things that are naturally not comfortable for you may only lead you to catch on to a popular bandwagon and nothing else. Hence we really can define life as a stretch of time helping us to make choices, both good and bad, and necessarily for the best. Some food for thought!