The wonders known as children

The joys of being a parent
It is without a doubt that one can say that children have that inherent ability of making you feel loved at most times when you seem to have lost the battles of the world. It is a child that makes one feel that if there is God somewhere above there, and he must have surely tickled the kid’s funny bone making him smile in his sleep. If you’ve ever noticed a baby sleeping, you’ll agree with me that they look their angelic best. All the trauma and hyper activity that they have so far dealt with is suddenly at peace by the time they retire in the night. It was as if because they want their presence felt, they seek all of your attention all the time and all through the day!

Like all of them are special and inquisitive in their own special way, we must realize as parents that they have their amount of intelligence that is in born in them. Every child has the necessary intelligence to live in this world. You just cannot compare him/ her with another. When you draw comparisons, you seem to forget that these comparison; in reality stem from your own self esteem.

It is your image in front of you which makes you accept and reject his qualities. This is so because the child who looks up to you for strength and knowledge; a figment of what you are endowed with and hence have imparted across to him. When you just create an atmosphere for him/her to grow into his intelligence rather than super-imposing your ideas upon him, you can expect that the child will grow to the fullest.

Contrary to what we think, children have the capability to understand far better than we would.

In a class of students aged 3- 9 years of age, almost all of them were asked the same question; "how do you define love", while most students spoke of how much love they have received from their grandparents, the best answers surprisingly came from the younger lot, aged 3 and a half to 5 years.

One of them defined love in the manner of expression. He noted that, ‘when someone loves you...the way they say your name... It’s different! If you’d notice there is immense depth in the manner of expression. So while you influence your child, there are several role models that create an impression on his little mind. Parents, teachers, friends, and other sections of society also form the way a child will eventually think. It is our responsibility to make them understand the ways of the world in a manner that they will imbibe and comprehend.

Influencing Children
Of course there will be several influences on children. You can't really help it. There are so many instances which makes one understand the mystery of the young brilliant mind. The concept of ghosts, the eerie stories that their ears pick up, the false assumptions that they tag along in their minds, all of it and more! With newer generations, they seem to question and ask you logical questions. Of course you can't build a sanatorium for your child, but what you can so is help them mould their minds by stating facts. And don’t even for a minute think that they will not understand!

Although it’s quite possible that they might not understand your fantastic language; they might follow your instructions if you could use the language and examples that familiar to their own clan. Still; as a parent, you can play a very important role in allowing the growth of his intellect. Let me tell you how….If you thought that the child could be ought to learn from the time he/ she is born; well then you thought wrong; even as the most rational human being that you might consider yourself to be, I’d still say that you thought wrong. A child comes into your life to teach you what life is all about; lessons that you have only understood through academics not experienced them in practicality!

Lessons learnt from Children
It is time for you to learn how much you’ve missed out in life! So much so that at one point you might feel that your life has suddenly become distorted. A child looks at life afresh, and is not muddled with your stereotypical ideologies. One sitting with a child and understanding through his mind and you’ll begin to look at life differently! Though it is tough for you to understand a child’s mind at first coz you’re not experienced, you’ll need to look through the clues that he/ she gives you. This teaches you one thing amongst the many in the pipeline…Patience and the virtue of Observation.

All you need to do for your child is to give him/her love and support. That is all that they ultimately require. Create a loving atmosphere for him/her which nurtures the intellect. Children don’t need to know what you did or did not do in life. You could cite examples and make it a story for them to understand and churn out their conclusions. This not only heightens his share of intelligence, but also makes him an avid thinker. Thoughts bring in imaginative answers and plays on their sense of courage. People consider materialistic things to be a part of their affection. Bringing up a child requires a balanced mind, one that is free of unwanted thoughts and one that can thwart all negativism, even if that appears to come from the spouse’s side.

Most women get little or no mental support from their husbands. More often than not they tend to blame their husband’s to be more demanding than their kids. What they fail to understand that because husbands across the world have had enough and probably more of everything in the world, they sub-consciously fail to share the same attention with the newly born. Most men I spoke to vociferously declared that this was not true but also mentioned in the same breath that women spent too much time with their kids, than with their respective selves.

Bringing up a child is an art most women are masters of, what you need is some compassion, some patience and some sort of observation from the male side; and believe me a child will definitely teach you through his mannerisms and tantrum, all this and more. If you thought that these bundles of joy could do nothing but eat and sleep, let me tell you that there’s more to it than meets the eye!