Workplace conflicts

Since individuals all comprise of different mind sets it’s quite possible that there may be arguments or differences of opinion regarding certain issues. You’ll find this happening most often in places of work.

Usually there are different types of conflict but the ones causing most tensed environments are those pertaining to the office. This is so as most of our time is spent there. So where there are more people, and you spend more time, you are likely to engage in heaty arguments as well.

It’s also due to the age factor at times. Thanks to our growing misunderstandings or generation gaps, you’ll find most elderly people getting inhibited by the younger generation. One of the reasons is because of the feeling of insecurity.

Since today the scene has changed with most people getting educated in almost all skills, soft and technical, the older generation who has spent a huge amount of time in various organizations are the ones that suffer the most. Actually it’s not so much about the number of places that you have been as much as the lack of overall exposure that these seniors have. There are various skills that have come to light only just recently. The feelings of inhibitions loom large over such people.

Another reason of conflict could also be because of them being rigid in their ways of working. Rigidity is one factor that retards growth and subsequently leading to a conflict. Besides the rules of working have changed along with the style of working too. You no longer work for the need or desire of working.

You work today either for the money attached or to prove your academic skills. Innumerable people that have encountered face the same situation. They need to keep the light of their houses burning. This was the philosophy amongst most senior people, where the modes of earning money were few. It is also the fear of losing their position to a younger fellow and consequently the grip on things that makes them indulge in arguments.

Symptoms that build up a conflicting atmosphere
Sometimes you may have a conflict simply because of differences in opinion, but it is rarely so. Since more and more people are more towards the learning curve, its more about the survival of the fittest and not necessarily the oldest that comes to fore. Most people today, both the younger generations as well as the seniors change roles and positions in the hunt for a higher pay package and also for reasons that are not reflected in the time of your future interviews!

You’d never find a person mentioning that he or she has changed places because he/ she wants to learn the knack of manipulation. Innately if you’d notice, any senior manager is fit and deemed to be known a good manager, if he knows how to get his arm across his juniors. People who tend to disagree have to face his wrath. So what do you do when your point is valid; two things really. One you try to twist his arm to get to your point of view, or two, (which has become more popular with time) is to create situations to get rid of him.

It’s true that most senior managers are quite lonely on the top, which simply means that the seat gets hotter with the heightened designation. This one of the reasons why conflicts occur; to save one’s skin! If you are used to handling arguments in a positive manner, you may land up learning something or the other, but if you don’t then it’s anyone’s bet who will ultimately win.

What do you do in a situation like this
Firstly stay calm. Secondly keep back ups for every thing. It may not seem important to you but any backlog of the issue that has been recorded can help you getting back at the senior most people. Most people are scared of evidences especially back dated ones.

Make it a point to keep these handy. Most importantly have a good opinion of yourself as during the verbal lashings it’s important to feel confident so that the argumentative fervor does not break your morale. It’s difficult to remain unperturbed but remember anger only intensifies the issue, not allowing you to think straight.

People get most alerted with someone who shouts his/ her top off. This is because you can see it happening right there in front of you. If you remain silent, you are more likely to cause a feeling of anxiety that most overstated arguments cannot create. In conclusion, stick to your guns. If you are right and have gone in some places, admit it and quickly reflect on your positive points. The more examples that you quote the more likely you are at brainwashing people’s thoughts and ending the conflict! Best of Luck!