Living or Leaving the darkness !!

"All the powers in the universe are already ours. It is we who have put our hands before our eyes, and cry that it is dark. Know that there is no darkness around us. Take the hands away and there is the light, which was from the beginning. Darkness never existed, weakness never existed. We who are fools cry that we are impure." - Swami Vivekanand

Weakness, failures and darkness are results of our negative thinking. Optimism and positive thoughts makes us bold and successful.

If it is so simple then what does mean difficulty? Life is not very straight road with any curves and traffic. We need to maintain our speed and be careful for every turn we take in life.

I have seen critical cases in my life where a successful person gets disturbed by one failure or something unusual accident which makes him fall down ever worst continuously. It gets difficult for even a person to find the reason of continuous failures. It may be possible with success ladder also. It is just like playing ‘ Snake & Ladder’.

Psychologist says it domino effects.

Domino Effects

These are those critical situations that either make us or break us. If failures are not stopped, it gets habitual.

There are three different effects.
1. Normal Domino effect
2. Segregation
3. Reverse domino effect

Normal Domino Effect

Negative feelings regarding one area of life can create negative feelings in other areas. The ‘infection’ normally operates through treating ‘confidence’ as an indivisible thing and by subconsciously re-scripting ourselves in a negative way.

Blaming to other things hardly works in life. It is the stage where we need to understand our weaknesses.

"We have two choices: continue to blame the world for our stress or take responsibility for own reactions and deliberately change our emotional climate." - Doc Childre and Howard Martin

Segregation

If you are having problems, try to separate the different types of domino to avoid ‘infection’. Then you can focus your efforts on coping separately with each type of issue.

"We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope " - Martin Luther King, Jr.

Being hopeful for good things works in segregation stage. Faith is one more dimension to look for. " Throughout the history of mankind if any motive power has been more potent than another in the lives of all great men and women, it is that of faith in themselves. Born of the consciousness that they are to be great, they became great," said Swami Vivekanand.

Believe that you can improve on your mistakes by keeping aside for a while and working on positive attitude so as you can find out some excellent solutions of life.

Reverse domino effect

George Eliot said on change "It is never too late to become what you might have been."

The history of the world is the history of a few men who had faith in themselves. That faith calls out the divinity within. You can do anything. Once you get confidence in your life try to improve on your weaknesses and convert them into strengths. As Ralph rightly said "Our strength grows out of our weakness."

Isak Dinesen said, "Difficult times have helped me to understand better than before, how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many things that one goes worrying about are of no importance whatsoever".

What can you do?

Find out your positive dominoes hidden inside you. Make principles inside. Once you get successes out of failures world will notice you itself, you don’t need to tell anything.

It is sure that we face such situations where we come across to domino effects. Let it be your career or family life. But we are the only creator of those domino effects in our life.

We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves.