Relationships

Necessary Evil

In life there are many who would vouch for getting rid of the necessary evils of relatives. In fact, there are many who would rather opt for friends than relatives. Its quite true actually as you can choose your friends but not your relatives! Although we go through various phases in life, as a part of growing up, there are few who understand the need for understanding itself. Relatives usually don’t! Most of the time women are blamed for bad relationships, the reasons may vary from one woman to another, but the general tendency is to blame her as if she is the last person on this earth to bear the brunt of being a woman.

We are introduced to this world by our mothers, and then emotions somehow take over! Like when we enter into a relationship, for the moment there are similar feelings that cross all our hearts in a unique way. It’s a pity that we don’t let that love remain in our hearts by stereotyping the roles that we play. Relationships, getting in and getting out of them creates quite a stir, not to mention the excess baggage that goes along with it. It’s funny how when we fall in love, we seldom use our heads and when we fall out of it, all sensibilities, suddenly surround your mind.

Changing Lanes
I somehow believe that any relationship needs three things, four actually. Firstly, it needs loads of patience. It’s probably only patience that allows you to do manage emotions, anger, happiness, accidents, etc. Second also important is diplomacy! This actually goes hand in hand as if you’re not diplomatic in handling relations it’s quite likely that you might land up defeating the motive of your patience. I mean, when is the time that you are patient, when somebody’s trying it right! So when you’ve already handled the heart through patience, you also need to keep it check as more often than not, when things are at a narrow turn in life, it’s likely that you might lose control of your tongue! The third aspect is love. I know its rather surprising to have loved placed third, but believe me, I’ve tried this ample number of times, men don’t understand love and affection when its really needed. Which is why we need to go up the hierarchy ladder in maintaining your cool first and then proceed in demonstrating your point, that too lovingly. The last, in addition to all these is destiny. This is something that we need to understand that if it has to happen, it will happen, something similar to Murphy’s Law.

Moreover, when you’re destined to face something unpleasant, no matter how hard you try and how difficult it may seem, there are two things that are always applicable to this. One that it happened and second, that because it happened, it taught you something. Nurturing a relationship is pretty much like taking care of a child that refuses to grow with time. It’s quite unlike us, who at some point of time have to grow and mature. Although we, as humans do grow within the relationship, because there are different people involved within the relationship, I think if we were to take on the ownership and improve the situation, this world would be an even greater place to live in. Although not all of us in this big bad world can live in a harmonious manner, (since not all of us are share the same nature!), we can do our bit and try!