Marriages, and its never ending responsibilities

Universal Definition
Most marriages come with as a package deal, one that gives you absolute freedom as an individual to understand that in dreams lie responsibilities. The society of marriage entitles you with several responsibilities and it all occurs to one that there is only the sole woman who has to bear the cross, for everything, for raising a family, keeping her in-laws company, and enduring her husband with unpalatable devotion. There have been many who perhaps were against such a burden, who gave the world a new chapter in their definition of society, Divorce.

More often than not men and women describe the basic reason for divorce to be that of incompatibility. Let's understand what this incompatibility actually is. A typical example of a married woman across several cultures promptly means that the woman has to (although not necessarily but generally) at the threshold and the receiving end, almost all the time. If she doesn’t cook to her husband’s appetite, then its her fault, in some cases, perhaps her mothers. If she’s a bad mother, its all her doing, she probably did not have enough time or was perhaps wasting it elsewhere. Whatever do we mean by quality time then. A woman is supposed to be in the philosophical terms the provider of everything, and yet understood to be human!

It sounds ridiculous to me when I hear couple remarking that women are born to be equal, its only their upbringing that makes them typical stereotypes. Men are known to be providers in financial terminology only. There are a sizeable amount of men, in our world who do not care to take on the responsibilities of their better half. And there are others who depend on their wives while they get themselves entertained elsewhere. What I am really trying to get at is the fact, that despite there being a disparity in people’s thought processes, the woman will always remain the door mat for people to step on and wash their feet of. And what better than to get them married! With marriage, its even better a reason to mock her values and ideals.

A Woman’s plight
Irrespective how far we might reach in science and technology, the woman will ultimately get degraded and will be told to bow down, only because she is a woman. With every girl child being born today, its sure for a fact that the continent of Asia still hounds the mother to get herself tested for the baby she is carrying, if it’s a male child, there is renouncement, and for a female; mockery! Many might not agree with me, but if you notice the statistics, its always the woman who gets mobbed, raped and attacked. There are a few cases of male harassment, but you’ll find a drastic number of people doing that to men. Considered vulnerable in our world, women have to bear the cross wherever they go. They might have the best of marriages, but after the initial fervor is over, its always her responsibility, always her fault.

Love suddenly escapes in the thin air, and feelings are of no real consequences. And to add to that women are labeled as emotional fools who just can’t get their feelings right and seem to have the worst timing for everything. There are very few cases of single women being molested by their boy friends. There may be, but not so many as married women! The ratio is quite an eye- opener. I inquired about this and came to the conclusion that because women tend to mature faster than men, they understand the situation rather quickly not allowing room for the male to give in his excuse.

This probably peeves him and what follows, if not handled appropriately is a series of arguments that can get physical. Perhaps its different when you’re dating because you only meet your beloved for a few moments. When you’ve got to live it through, its extremely difficult as this means a clash of many things, values, ideals, feelings, beliefs all go down the drain, and mostly because neither of them can understand the responsibilities that marriage quietly tags along. So if you seek to get married, be sure to have loads of patience and even more to do, in terms of a career, because if not for the patience bit, if you’ve got something besides married life to get you, it would allow you some breathing space to sort your problems! Food for thought!