Why men go Astray

We've encountered with jealousy in us, as women and we've observed the immature male. Neither can leave the other, with respect to both genders. But there are several people I have questioned about fidelity in marriage, and more often than not, it seems to be the same excuse - 'The Other Woman'. Men don't go for a woman's looks alone, and though there may be many who might disagree with me, there are some who can very well figure nodding their heads vigorously. With the blossoming of marriage or any relationship for that matter, there are the initial teething problems that every marriage surfaces.

With kids and also their absence, women don't want to look back on bygones. Men note it in their diary of actions to be taken and what may be perceived, as a relationship that allows both members to grow suddenly becomes a tumultuous sea of raging arguments. None of us want our relationships to go sour. It's just that while accepting the fact that you have been bonded for life, you generally tend to take things to seriously and too much under your respective stereotypical roles. So where do you then head for?

The Greener Pasture
To begin with most of us spend our majority time outdoors, where we come across people from different walks of life. While this might be interesting to note, it's also true that there are many times that women seek out for men who may never be their own, and vice versa for men too. There comes a time in everyone's life where most of us wish to take some shelter on the other greener pasture. As I stated earlier, more often than not this happens, as you tend to take you role too seriously as either a wife or as a husband.

And since none of us went to the perfect marriage grooming schools, there are conflicts and with working women there are comparisons! There are many women who I spoke to said that they would have felt a lot better if only their husbands treated them the way friends or colleagues at the office did! Friends mean the world to most of us, but the essence of friendship could never be based on argumentative reasons, of "I told you so "s. Some women also remarked that it was an appealing body of a woman that attracted the man towards her.

Well, from the plethora of women that I have met, this is only the psychological effect of being a woman. It's only a woman who has been granted complete access to her tears. That she may use them as frequently as she may so desire. Jealousy is yet another feeling that she can strongly use and then complain the after all she is a "Woman"! Blame it on role models, books or psychoanalysts; women have always had certain special feelings that define them. It's more out of desperation that a woman torments a man, and a man, on the other hand, allows this taunt to form the largest part of his psyche, allowing it to boomerang in his head. The resultant factor or this mental war: You guessed it, the other woman. The Other woman has all these qualities and more. She can be alert, possessing wit, charisma, grandeur, and all those things that his lady back home is fed up of portraying!

Biased Marriages
Perhaps in some way or the other we attach too many tags to marriage. That if you are married, you've got roam around with a broken back, laden with responsibilities. That there is nothing like a Male Menopause, whereby men experience intermittent flights of depression pangs, loneliness and hot flushes. Women from a man's angle should be super women, who can cook, wash, clean and raise healthy kids, remain in shape and still manage to be the most patient person on earth.

Men can flirt, make passes, ogle at their whims and fancies and have a different woman lunch partner every day. In some manner, I think we unnecessarily attach too much of importance to living together. Marriages are made to be comfortable for couples who choose their life partner, on their acceptance of growing old together, not for competition or revenge. And yes women need to be pampered, hugged, loved, spoken to, heard and left alone at times. Because like cats, women also need to purr!