Inside Relationship - Bridge 2005

God was so alone that he created very beautiful, wonderful, exciting, pleasant, lovely and lively world. When he made a man he found again man’s loneliness. Thus to accompany a man he made woman. He made all relationships for our survival and companionship. He never thought of a man or a woman without any companionship.

Our Loneliness

Joseph F. Newton Men says "People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges." Love and relationship are next to next doors in our lives. The basis of every relationship is divine love. We get attracted to others because of love. However degree of love defines your deep relationship with others. We are afraid to build relationship because of fear of creating walls where our ego plays very important but negative role.

I agree with I. Claremont that you can build bridge of relationship but not love. But once you are near then you are dear.

Relation that we persist in our lives

Parents, grandparents, siblings and those who take care of my physical and emotional needs are at first & foremost relationships. People standing at outside are friends at school, and teachers, relatives and others. Than enter into intimate relationships, which can result in marriage and children.

A state of connects endless between people (especially an emotional connection). 'Relationship' is often used where 'relation' would serve. For example

Mother who has given birth to me;
Father who is the founder of my family

People in my life and myself are my primary relationship.

"Our relationships are the clearest mirrors of our weakness and strengths, our generosity or lack of it, our sense of security or lack of it, our need to control or not, our sense of caring, loving, nurturing etc. All of us have experiences the help of depending on others for our happiness" says Krishnamurthi.

The Best Relationship

The best relationship is the one in which your love for each other exceeds then your need for each other. Anne Lindbergh says, "A good relationship has a pattern like a dance... to touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the moment, to check the endlessly changing beauty of its unfolding."

Every person at all the events of your life is there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you. - Richard Bach

Relationships require a certain emotional energy to move forward and be healthy.

Relationship has the power to keep me in good physical and emotional well being, but when relation goes wrong, relationship become abusive means I am unhappy I feel I cannot move away from my relation. I can control my relations, but not that of others. I have no control at all over what people are like, what they think. I take responsibility for them. They are my problem. I go deep within my self into the very depth of my being. At that point I lovingly receive my feelings, wants, needs, anger, and desires.

"Relationships protect me against physical disease and illness" Anita Anand says.
It is an ability to cope with variety of situations together. It is being close and connected.

In opinion the person said, "I've learned in my lifetime so far that you can't help who you fall for and no matter how hard you try and how much it hurts you everyday that you just want to be with them or just talk to them you never stop trying to make them happy by the little things you say or do because that’s what makes your life worth going on for."

Fear & Relationship

We are always afraid to lose what we love. All relations have their own periods. Sometimes they are good and sometimes they pass through bad times. Relation does not mean speaking good words or buttering always. If I think and speak by measuring then it is lie. I. Claremont says, "Clever conversation does not make a relationship." David Grayson criticizes people’s behavior in relationship. " I have often wondered why it is that men should be so fearful of new ventures in social relationships. Most of us fear, actually fear, people who differ from ourselves, either up or down the scale."

According to N.Henderson "a good relationship is the one where you feel safe enough to express your fear and vulnerability to each other."

Relation Inside

Kabir wrote, " Where are you searching for me, friend? Look! Here am I right within you. Not in Temple, nor in Mosque, not in Kaaba nor Kailas (Himalayan). But here right within you am I. After every relation we search for god-like. And right there god is within us. That means to make best relationship with other first of all make best relation with self. Relation is from deep inside.