Relationships with Abusive Narcissists
Living with a narcissist can be exhilarating, is always onerous, often harrowing. Surviving a relationship with a narcissist indicates, therefore, the parameters of the personality of the survivor. She (or, more rarely, he) is moulded by the relationship into The Typical Narcissistic Mate/Partner/Spouse.
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| Christina |
Great article. Very helpful and informative. I live with a narcissist and it really opened up a lot of things for me. A better understanding. I knew them all but just didn't know how to explain it. For instance I can't seem to get anyone around me to believe that he is the problem and not me. He is so charming in the short term but when you are around him for the long term his true self comes out. He has told our neighbors and his entire community that I am evil and a witch as well as many other things. He has convinced even the police that I have assaulted him and he had me arrested. It was the other way around. He had the cop say the marks all over me were already there even when I recorded the entire incident. That is what I have to do to. I wanted to have proof of all of our conversations. That way I thought people would believe me. It didn't work. He is so skilled at convincing even the police that I believe he could get away with murder. I thank you for putting this information out there. The only reason I haven't left him is because he has told me that he would subject my children to the cruelties of his family. The whole lot is dysfunctional. I am waiting until my children get old enough to be able to communicate things to me. We do not co-exist as it stands now. He is so messed up and evil,I cannot stand to look at him. I hate that he is the Father of my children. I had no idea. He was through with me the minute I figured it out. I no longer served a purpose to his image. I honestly couldn't believe that there were really people like this. He is sick. But what a pro.
This helps me a lot. I now have something to give to our former marriage counselor that told me that I was borderline. That I was the problem. I plan on sending him a copy. I have been treated badly by his community and his family as well as neighbor's,friends and his outside world. It is like living in a Nightmare. I cannot wait to wake up. Although when I wake up I just wonder if I will still be here. I think not. He has destroyed all of my friendships. He ran everyone away. He expected me to conform to his ways and only associate with his friends and his world. |
1/5/2008 |
| ChrisM |
Has anybody out there found any specific information regarding relationships with female narcissists? |
10/31/2006 |
| Mandy |
this article helped me answer alot of questions. i just got out of a 5 year relationship with a narcissist and it ended very badly. he said that if couldn't have me then no one could. i was severely hurt by him and i ended up with several broken ribs, a fractured collarbone and hip, a cheekbone fracture, and many bruises. i had to stay in the hospital for 2 weeks due to surgeries and what not. he is currently in jail because i pressed charges. things were fine between us because we grew up together and our families are really close. i have known him since i was 4 years old. he was my everything and then last year when i came to college he went crazy because i was not with him 24/7. i guess he couldn't handle the distance because he constanly accused me of cheating on him when i wasn't. i loved him with all my heart and he just wouldn't grasp that. i guess he had to have me in his sight all the time. i now know that some things just cannot be changed. thank you for your article. |
9/13/2006 |
| Renee |
Wow. this is scary...... I may be in a relationship with someone like this. Its the beginning stages..... but feel scared to break up. |
9/7/2006 |
| annmarie |
sorry, Dr. VAKNIN. |
8/31/2006 |
| annmarie |
dr. vanikin, i'm sure you realize that you "control" most of the page 1 google entries for "narcissistic personality"? thus only your views are available (for the most part). you sneaky NPD, you!! |
8/31/2006 |
| Norma |
I found this article to be very informative..... would be interested in ideas to break away from the narcissist. As stated, clinging to this person, for reasons only known of by each victim, is difficult to understand, but it is a strong, strong hold and one not at all easy to break free from...... even years later |
8/20/2006 |
| katy |
remarkable |
5/12/2006 |
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