| Name |
Views and Comments | Date |
| silvia |
i need a lover |
8/26/2009 |
| devastated |
I had my concerns confirmed and am now trying to decide how to proceed... we have been married over 20yrs and have 5 kids. I love this man, but feel so desparately hurt, betrayed and angry. With the internet, how can I possibly believe he is not still communicating with her? He has not admitted all their previous contact, so why should I beleive him now? Am seriously weighing my options, he does not get the seriousness of this... I will make it on my own if I have too, I will not live with BS. I just have to be sure and hope he can be honest and open when I am finally strong enough to discuss it with him. The only thing that "pleases" me, is that she is not in the country at this time. |
8/13/2009 |
| ANTHONY |
SOMEONE WHO FEAR GOD AND LOVE ME WITH ALL HER HEART |
5/21/2009 |
| larrisa scaff |
If a man wants to be "friends" then you will be their to watch them but if he dont like it then you know he is cheating becaue that is a term for friends with benefits meaning they do things you hate(cheating) |
2/23/2009 |
| Monica C |
I have been in an emotional affair for over 2 years. It is the most painful thing I have ever experienced. I feel like I am in limbo most days, many highs but horrible lows. I have been married for almost 23 years and my husband knows nothing about it. It is a coworker and I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride with him starting out with him totally coming on to me but then not wanting to consumate our relationship and deciding he just wanted to be friends. I have suffered as he has had two serious girlfriends and many other short term ones. He continues to want me in his life and I can't say no. I have tried. I want on many levels to end our relationship and yet am terrified of him not being in my life. It sounds so desperate and I have never felt this out of control before. |
2/5/2009 |
| diana |
i had a relationship like that, it was great at first but some where along the way it all became work, finances, bills, ect... our time was always and mostly spent around that and our family issues, that killed it for me, i really loved him, i just wanted time with him. |
2/3/2009 |
| cheryl |
My husband is cheating on me with a 62 year old woman, he tells her alot and has a lot of conversations with her at her house and he does show me any affection at all, and he is 59 and i am 45 and thin, and shes not and has short hair and he claims he does not like short hair she is also an acholic and i donot drink and neither does he and she smokes alot of ciragrettes and goes to clubs alot and she doenot work and spends alot of money, and her husband is a good worker and my husband is suppose to be there doing work that needs to be done, not fouling around with his wife barb. |
2/1/2009 |
| Thinking |
I haven't heard anyone else divide emotional affairs into these 2 categories before, and this is enlightening. I've been in the "just friends" emotional affair, and whenever I read up on the term, I get back results that talk about planning a future and saying you're in love with that person...that's never happened...but there are 'vibes' there.
I read this in a post somewhere, and I thought it was worth considering. They say that secrecy is the big difference between platonic and emotional affair, but what if your spouse's inherent jealousy prevents you from being open about it?
"But if the married person is simply grabbing lunch with an opposite sex friend, chatting about innocous subjects, and now and then catches a movie with the friend---basically acts exactly the same with this friend as with same gender friends---then he or she can still be committing an emotional affair if his or her spouse just doesn't like men and women hanging out together."
Can the term 'emotional affair' be used as a tool for a jealous and controlling spouse to isolate their mate from anyone of the opposite sex? Just a thought. |
11/6/2008 |
| eve |
i love u
4 wat u are
i love u
b coz u will part of my life
love u always |
8/12/2008 |
| RISHI |
IF love is a disease i am ill |
3/10/2008 |
| RISHI |
IF love is a disease i am ill |
3/10/2008 |
| anonymous |
I think you have nailed the essence of my husband's very public emotional affair, and the internal issues within. It's hard to get my husband to see it that way, but surely his own words say he needs to be admired. Interesting article! |
12/8/2007 |
| Belinda Piercy |
What on earth does "living life from the core of who one is" mean, for one thing. And what does it mean as the opposite or alternative to living off the emotional juice from the fall-out of emotionally intense relationships. Is their core not a drama-seeker? Is it the case that whenever a person creates drama this is a defect that can be corrected as not a part of who they really are? Is everyone's core calm and uninclined to drama? |
11/9/2007 |
| anon |
Marriage is only a contract. True love is something else |
8/5/2007 |
| R Johnson |
Sound like you hit the nail on the head...my wife went through this las December.....it was awful!! after numerous talks and her "agreeing" with "him" that nothing would occur from it, and about $500 dollars in additional cell phone charges to his phone...I finally had enough and packed up. Only then did she realize what she was doing....and things have been progressing....it is a slow process....but both of us need to work on things....I of course requested she no longer converse with her co worker and she DONT EVER forget about the two of you......losing you focus on each other only opens the door to this....it is hard work....but that is what marriage is all about right.
Take care all who read this.
RJ Manassas |
2/26/2007 |
| Juana |
Do you have anything on jealousy in marriage? When is jealousy reasonable and when it is not? |
2/16/2007 |
| Tommy |
Left out of the reasons for an emotional "affair" of the "just friends" variety is the plight of a caregiver of a chronically ill spouse. This person first of all needs a healthy person to interact with, since the stress of caring for a sick person can cause depression and a lowered quality of care for the spouse. A friend of the opposite sex who is cheerful, supportive, understanding, kind and loving can make a huge difference in helping the caregiver to remain positive and emotionally fulfilled. That is not to say that there is not the problem of sexual attraction in such friendships, but mature adults will understand that lasting friendships cannot survive the betrayal of one (or both) of the parties of their spouse or significant other. If you treasure the friendship, sexual feelings will not be a problem. I know, I am in such a relationship with a woman now that is mutually beneficial but helps me to remain balanced and sane while caring for a spouse who has been ill for many years. |
11/28/2006 |
| greg |
hook up and have sex |
2/23/2006 |
