Parenting Teenage Boys

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Name	Views and Comments	Date
V.VIVEK	its good. how to make them away from TV AND COMPUTER, where in he spend more than 8 hrs a day	1/5/2012
Julia Gillard	We are moving forward to negociate these issues together! I am obese!	11/18/2010
Koala Dicks	cool i will try this on my 69 sons who are currently teenagers	11/18/2010
FedUp	I think this person hasn't had, or been around, a teenage boy.	11/8/2010
Trey	I am 13 and i hate my dad. Not hate as in he mean hate as in i want him dead. He is constantly yelling at me, He's always in my face, He always wants to take a belt to me and i am really getting tired of it. i've been suicidal since i was 7. What my dad always forgets to do is let me be me and that is really starting to affect my emotional, social, and mental skills in life. All I want is for my dad to stop hitting me and being on my case. So he's gives me that or i could just kill myself	11/2/2010
Evangelia Biddy	It is unfortunate we live in a culture where boys are not free to be themselves. It is important that parents and educators value and appreciate emotional diversity in boys. All boys are not tough guys, super sportsmen or rock stars. The path to manhood is different and varied. For year the women's movement has worked to show girls that they can be whatever they want. We must now refocus and give boys that same freedom.	9/25/2010
Ana	My 13 year old son is afraid to try anything new and it frustrates my new husband to no end. I recognize he may have been cauddled but I did my best to raise him the best I could when I was alone with him and mis younger brother and sister. My son and new husband are always arguing becasue they are so different and it is killing me. My husband wants to be outdoors and my son wants to be in the house. What can i do?	7/17/2010
helen	Dear Lance i dont get this profanity thing i didnt say one cuss word oh well sorry my spelling came out to look a lil dumb ha ha i read your article to my son and he says he would love to have a big brother also so any way keep the faith hope to hear from you and id love to be your support if youd like thanks agian helen	6/7/2010
helen	gear lance im a mother of a 10 year old boy. I was adopted at birth my adopted mom was a lot like what youve described i can completely relate if you ever need someone to talk to or just listen id be happy to im not a werdo or preditor eithier a young person is at risk these days however i assure you im just a mom who wants to do good for others and your article touched me and i think i can help.	6/7/2010
aronno amin	i m 16 years .hight-5.11 fet waight-59 kg ... i have no control to my sex .. to see any hot seen ..then everythin is lost.. i have no sex prower ...	5/21/2010
cynical	it's interesting that the solution to dealing with unresponsive teens is to cater to them, coddle them, kiss their bottoms, basically - no respect is expected, reciprocity is a foreign world. it's all about them and screw the parents or how they feel or what they think. so twisted.	4/20/2010
Lance	My email's calisurfer93 and it's with gmail Sorry the profanity check wont let me post it normally	4/14/2010
Lance	I'm 16. . I'm a guy. My mother's abusive, and a hoarder. She's really twisted, and I have to put on the mask even more because she's totally insane. She isolates herself from everyone, doesn't have any friends that she talks to, doesn't drive. . just either cries or screams, and is normal maybe 20% of the time. I've kind of already let her go cause I know she's not my real mom. . just someone who's really sick and probably isn't going to get better. This article's right in a lot of ways. At the end of the day, all we want is love. All we want is a good mom. Someone to hang out with and spend time with, but also give us guidance and advice. I would say the most important don't for a mom is don't smother us. Give us our space, and our freedom, and let us make our own choices. But be there for us, and love us, cause we need that. I'd give anything to have a mom who thought I was worth the gas to be picked up from practice, and who said I love you to me, and listened to me, and really truly loved me. I really need a mom. If there's one out there that gets me, email me, please.	4/14/2010
TROUBLED MOM	This was also good for me to see, i just stumbled upon it for a reason! My 13 year old an I also have major issues, an it really breaks my heart! :{ It is at the point of marital problems,my husband supports both of us ,but it is at the point of not knowing what to do now. Even though he is a good kid an respect others! But for some reason I as a mother I do not get any of that! IDEAS?	11/28/2009
christina	This is good for me to read. Im having trouble communicating with my 13 yr. 0ld boy. I also have my issues like all I know to do is yell, get out of my face and your grounded and I nagg. How do I stop my own cycle of madness?	11/19/2009
Maria Mccoy	my son is a great kid. He is 16 and considerate. The problem is that he try to please everybody in order to keep the peace. He wants to be popular, but he is not being successful. He has a group of friend, but I think he is just following them trying to fit in. He told me hes other friends become his friends when the main leader of the group is not there. He told me that he can't wait to graduate so when he goes to college he cans start fresh. What can he do to try to fit in? I want him to be himself. It makes me sad to think that he thinks that when he goes to college things will be different. What if they are not? What then?	10/25/2009
Teri	Nice article. My son and I need help. I feel like I'm treading water trying to get close. It hurts my feelings. I love him so much and want to help.	6/12/2009
Lucy	Beth promise me you wont let your hubby do that! from experience that is the worst thing imaginable. dont dont dont do it. you will drive your son away and if it goes on for too long his unconditional love wont last. fear is the worst thing for a parent to do for their child. talk to him and try let him understand if this doesnt happen ask a sibling to. p.s. maybe you do dote on you older daughter kids dont just say that for no reason. sarah i agree with you about the "Dad" dilemma. goodluck for you both.	4/6/2009
Sarah	"Dad" i get what your saying and all but i think your only looking at it from your own perspective. This is coming from experience when i say that although your kids love you we dont live easy lifestyles. we have so many worries that get worse and worse by the day some of them adults dont even think really matter. but that doesnt take-away the fact that it DOES matter to the kid no matter the enormity of it. you may feel as though you are helping him and stuff but if he doesnt feel comfortable around you then things have to change. if he doesnt need a job dont force him to have one. a job at maccas really isnt going to teach you anything too valuable unless you want to stay in that business until you retire. and thats coming from experience as well. live in the present not his future.	4/6/2009
Liam B	and too "DAD" things have away of sorting themselves out but it will of course take work on your half and your sons, good luck i hope to hear everything's going well =)	1/18/2009
Liam B	And I am a teenage boy of 14 and don't have problems expressing myself, but i'am aware that others do have difficulties sharing in opinion and can see no long term solution to the problem and I guess that it is an essential part of life and reverting out of adolescence, thanxs for posting this article	1/18/2009
Liam B	On the most part I agree with what you've said, BUT not all male adolescence are like that of which you've categorised them as, mopping sad lads how are unable too express feelings of compassion and love	1/18/2009
Theresa	Many of these writers are obviously illiterate. Talk about atrocious spelling and grammatical errors! Can't people take the time to pick up a dictionary? You should be ashamed of yourselves if you can't write better than a third grader. What kind of role models are you to your children? Anyway, I can completely relate to "Dad" and his article about his teenage son. I too have a son going through teenage angst, and from what I've been told, we should love them, express what makes us proud of them, and yet try to stand firm in our beliefs at the same time. Not an easy task! By the way "Dad," I think you are right to take away your son's allowance if he is not earning it. You sound like a good and loving father. Don't worry - everything works out in the end when a child has been raised properly.	1/3/2009
Dad	Thanks for this! I am full time Dad of a 16 year old. My Son appears to be a very confident person, he's intelligent, popular, trendy, charming all the things that make me think that he's happy and well rounded. He has a good social life and is rarely indoors. He has been living with me for the past 5 years, we have had our ups n downs, but I feel I am trying to my best by him, teaching him, discipline and how to handle life situations. He is my pride n joy and often gloat about him, however yesterday he broke down in an argument and said that I put a lot of pressure on him, and take my bad days out on him. He says I don't appreciate what he does i.e. washing up and tidying up, he says I am always going on at him, because I have said he should find a summer job, rather playing on the computer all night long and sleeping during the day. I appreciate that he's a teenager, however I am trying my utmost to stop him getting into that lazy mode, trying to prepare him that he will need to work hard if he is to succeed. I feel that I have to constantly remind him to switch electrical items off, put his clothes in the laundry bag, do the washing up etc.. then he feels that all I do is moan. Because of his lack of effort in finding a job, I have stopped his allowance. I am feeling hurt at the fact that I try to do all by him, provide him with a quality lifestyle, without any input from his Mother, yet I am looked on as a dictator in his life, he says the reason he is not indoors, is because he doesn't feel that he can relax without me getting at him.	8/15/2008
teezee	nice article	8/6/2008
DIane	This article is silly and doesn't really address ANY issue. Maybe the fact that males are less communicative but that is well known. Useless to me. (Mother of 16 year old boy)	7/9/2008
Jennifer	I have a 14 year old son who is very kind-hearted, friendly and an overall wonderful person. However, he is hanging on to some bad habits that I need help with. He is very obnoxious, he has developed horrible table manners that were not always there, and he can be rather rude at times. Any advice?	6/12/2008
beth	my son is 14 and he feels eventhough i try keep comunications open, that i do not love him he tinks i favor my oldest daughter. my husband looses patients with him and thinks he is a smart ass, but i beleive he is just tring to asort his individuality. my husband wants to put fear into his relationship and i believe this will push him away even more. how do i keep my son close and reasure him that i care for him as much as his sibling.	6/9/2008
annonomouse	OK i have a boyfriend and hes very sweet and adorable now i dont know wat i should do i am scared to make a move cause i am just shy plz post a comment on wat i should do cause i am stuck i have so far gave him 4 hugs and a kiss on the check wats my next step plz comment bac. A.S.A.P thx alote	4/26/2008
Sydney	Ok i think its wrong for wat ur child did because i mean he s a child it depends how old he is but boys will be boys.	4/26/2008
AM	I've caught my son stealing money from me before and I ask where it's going to be spent at. He always tells me. Usually for a game, CD or movie. I'm strapped most the time and don't make a lot of money, but to avoid temptation for my son and me coming up short and angry, I had a perfectly frank talk WITH my son and not AT my son. He sees now what I make, and he thought it was a lot, now he knows we are borderline poverty. I ask him if he needs any money or wants me to put a game on lay-away for him and we go over and review a lot of things together. He picks what he wishes and I place it on lay away. Or he just wants a bit of cash to go to the movies with his buds. It works out best for both of us.	1/24/2008
anita	would like know if a mother caught a son stealing cash for the first time and child admit that he has done a wrong thing what should a mother do please reply asap	1/8/2008
Tara	She does not understand teenage boys.	10/12/2007
~F	Wow, I found that article to be well thought out and written. Everything about it seems pretty much true. I'm not sure if this was only meant to be read by my moms, but the only part I didn't like was when it said "Being a mother," because not all guys, me for instance, are the people deciding men shouldn't feel lonely or helpless or anything like that.	9/24/2007
TAIA	URE RIGHT! THEY NEVER SHOW THEIR EMOTIONS.THEY THNK THEY ARE OK ,THAT THEY CAN HANDLE ANYTHINK.............BOYS	7/31/2007
nobody loves me	my dad is dead. my mother hates me she says that i drove my father to his death bed she says that i have 2 move out what do i do. parents dont understand	5/14/2007
down	hi im on the edge what should i do school and life is geting to me dont cry for me cause im already dead	5/14/2007
hitch	life isnt all about school and homework u need to learn how to have a bit of craic at the same time	5/14/2007
hitch	parents need to listen and they need to make time for their kids to have fun and to cumunicate with them and please chilaxe u only live once	5/14/2007
charlie	This is another useless artical commenting on the mask behind which teenage boys hide, perents of teenages need to negociate stiff boundaries and stick to them if they want to help and control thier teenage sons	1/20/2007
Frank	Thanks to Gina Skinner and to prerna for all the great tips. I know communication is important but I admit I find it really hard to always swallow my pride and make the first step and approach them and sometimes they dont seem to care. I usually do all the talking and everything I say falls on deaf ears... I realize I should maybe say nothing at all and try hold back on advice, maybe I have to blame myself and not the kids that we have bad communication especilly with the oldest two. I do love them very much and sometimes I want to tell them but I cant... I know Im being stupid but its really hard. Also Gina thanks youve opened my eyes with the older kids getting the blame and youngest one getting off lightly all the time. I realize now how unfair that is! The youngest sometimes throws things at her brothers and snatches their things and they hit back or shout at her then get told off when my daughter cries. When she was tiny my wife and I thought that was cute and the boys thought that, too but now she often provokes them and just gets on their nerves. The nine year old is sometimes very clingy especially with my wife. My kids are 4, 9, 12 and 15 youngest a girl the others all boys. Thanks again from a stressed out father	9/26/2006
monica	The article is great the picture is silly and outdated	9/24/2006
jessica	name me some boy names	9/21/2006
khadijah	wuz up this be your girl khadijah on her i would like to help you	8/26/2006
khadijah	i think you should try to talk to someone and help you	8/26/2006
khadijah	how do you do bye your self or are you takecare of your baby bye your self all time get back at me	8/26/2006
Katyayini Angre	I have a 16 year old brother, he's my cousin and his parents are working so they can't give him much time. He takes me as his best friend and tells me all his feelings btu at times i feel he is disturbed about something how should I handle that? iam his 20 year old sister.	8/24/2006
Frank	my teenagers are 15 and 14.they are gifted musicians and they are exposed to entertainment where they compete. they have been winning. my 15 yr old was choosen to compete in singing live aired on radio. I love my boys i get lost trying to disiplan	8/20/2006
Gina Skinner	Hi... I agree that communication is the key. But most parents forget that doesn't mean they do all the talking. Parents need to listen as well and keep an open mind. Don't push your opinions on them. Tell and show your teenager that you love them and be there for them when they need you. Don't break a promise. If you think you might not be able to keep a promise, better don't make it in the first place. Try to be a good example. Don't swear in front of them, and don't let them see you in an unacceptable situation, like drunk or violent. If you do something wrong, admit it and apologize the same way you expect it from them. If you don't want them to smoke, you shouldn't either. Be responsible. Most importantly, make time for them. Spend time with them whenever possible. Ask what they'd like to do and have some fun together. Don't take everything too seriously. Laugh together. Try to see the funny side of things. Remember your own teenage years and how you felt. Try to see their point of view. If you have younger children, don't automatically blame the oldest child when they argue or something goes wrong. The same rules should apply to all the kids when it comes to behavior. Some parents allow a small child to misbehave because they find it "cute" but shout at an older child if he does the same thing. This is highly unfair and will lead to frustration. Parents often believe they must leap to the rescue of their younger children all the time and forget their tenagers are also children - their children, just the same. Good luck to everyone out there! Gina Skinner, mother of a (very confident and head-strong) 14 year old	2/3/2006
	HI readers, Thanks for posting your messages. To sum up the answers to all your querries, let me tell you that the key to dealing with teenage children is nothing but good communication. Often we hear parents who wonder of different ways and means to talk to their kids. If you need to talk to them as a friend, a parent or even as a relative, it's best if you speak to them at their comfortable time, and openly stating the facts and repurcussions. This may relate to just about anything. Teens need to be given the situational reactions to the various events that cross their lives. Tell them the pros and cons of each aspect of their inquisitive mind and leave it for them to understand what's the best thing in thier favor. This not only helps them develop and empower their brain but also makes them independant in a way. Despite the reason for them not being approachable or all "shelled in", you need to make the first attempt in driving them through their worries; in time they will turn to you for advise. Do let me know if you have any further questions. All the best to all! Cheers prerna	9/28/2005
need t find	help me	9/13/2005
Sandra	This is great. But will it work for friends who you think are in need of someone to talk to and open up too? I need help with a teenage boy who is a good friend of mine.	3/7/2005
susan	What should we do to help our son? He does talk to me and he admits he feels empty inside. He says he lives in a shell.	2/18/2005
Thomas Scott Sr	I will becoming a full time dad of teenage boys. Can you send me articles on what I need to do? Thank You. Thomas Scott Sr. 3295 Landline Road Selma, AL 36701	2/2/2005

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