| Name |
Views and Comments | Date |
| Alexis |
How to break up when you live together for like over a year or so? Secondly, how to break up when your 3 year-old calls him 'Daddy' and deals with 'losing' two daddy's in such a short time? |
7/21/2008 |
| lil' chick |
T nx.this ia a piece of advice I owe you.Now,I know what im goin to do with my relationship. |
6/25/2008 |
| julie |
men give love to get sex, woman give sex to get love |
5/30/2007 |
| W. Russell |
My girlfriend dumped me on Valentine's Day and she must have read this article. She did everything as mentioned in the article. When we get to the What Next, she's taken a complete "black out" period. With no chance of talking. I need a sliding scale approach. Am I asking for too much? |
3/29/2007 |
| Edward |
I'm sorry but outside of the advice of where to meet a potentially violent partner, this advice is really bad. You don't have a sliding scale, everytime you see/hear from the person it just opens old wounds and you will never heal.
Also don't point out other people's faults like you're trying to save them somehow. We're no one to point those things out as we ALL have our faults. Outside of just leaving b/c of abuse a simple "we want different things in life" or "I care but I'm not in love with you anymore" will suffice. We'll get over it...well all do, but we need no contact or as minimal contact as possible to do so. |
2/3/2007 |
| Tahni |
I think the mistake you have made in your advice is by saying a clean & clear separation is best then you go on to talk about phasing out the relationship in a sliding scale. Totally contradictory. Sliding scale break ups just keep the wounds open- I know because that is what my ex is presently doing to me. |
2/24/2006 |
| cara |
It makes me want to cry more and more! |
9/30/2005 |
| Kevin |
Most of this advice SEEMS intelligent...but it really just goes to prove the old joke Jack Nicholson tells in 'As Good As It Gets'; when a woman asks him how he's able to create female characters so well in his novels, he replies: "I think of a man. Then I take away reason, and accountability."
Which brings me to my point re: the above advice: telling a man the reasons WHY you dumped him doesn't achieve anything but the following:
(1) deliver a permanent, crippling blow to the ego
and/or
(2) foster a resentment and bitterness in the man, who will then forever resent and treat women badly due to the criticism he received from a woman who (supposedly) loved him at one time in his life.
Having said that, ladies...if you're gonna dump a guy, just dump him. Don't say why. Just leave. Go away and don't come back. Let him drink himself into the corner, punch trees or kick his psychological dog to the moon and back. But don't POINT OUT ALL THE GUY'S PERSONAL FLAWS. If a man gave other men the same advice you just gave your fellow females, we'd be forever labeled cruel, callous, thoughtless and heartless bastards forever for pointing out a woman's flaws. We'd never hear the end it. |
9/2/2005 |
| prerna |
Hi Liz, thanks for posting, according to me, this guy is simply playing around with you, if you want my advice, I think it would best if you keep your distance and get involved in something else, develop new hobbies, go for swimming lessons, play an instrument for a change instead of letting others play with your heart! Best of luck! Cheers prerna |
6/22/2005 |
| Liz |
Hi, my guy reasonlly ended our relationship the week before Easter 2005, he stated that he come to a concludtion that we should be friend after 4 yrs. I having a hard time with this, we see each 1 day a week, he calls me every 3 or 4 days and then he want to have sex., What kind of game is he playing? |
4/22/2005 |
