First Time Sex

You may be having lots of questions in your mind, especially the first time you are going to have sexual intercourse. You may feel uncomfortable about how you look without your clothes on. It's natural to feel some fears but good communication is the key. Being relaxed and able to share things with your partner who is also probably feeling the same will ease the stress.
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Sarah Iam a girl and aim 22 years old and after a month i'm getting married, and iam realy afraid of first time sex what should i do is it realy difficult for the first time? 8/28/2005
little angel This message is 4 confused sxc ga
GIRL& all the other boys & girls sex is what it is sex you all need to find something else to be curious about because it could lead to STD's and Pregnancy if ur older than 13 years old and you don't know what u want to be when u r older or which college to go to how EXACLY r u going to make a big decision like loosing ur viginity think about it dont feel pressured by anyone cause these days there is HIV and once u get that u will never get to do it again like i said THINK ABOUT IT i'm sure if u wait untill u're secure and able to pay your own bills whatever happens u can be able to deal with it trust me I KNOW.		 8/22/2005
Roberto Ibale I had sex with my sister stephanie and I felt up Vivian my cousin in my room. It was so great but I like my sister now, how do I stop this? 8/21/2005
jimboicecream i have a question. how much does penis size matter pain and pleasure wise? 8/20/2005
kho how to relax first time? wat to do? 8/18/2005
CARILONA WHERE DO I GO FOR AN ANSWER ACCORDING TO THE QUESTION THAT IF A GIRL BLEEDS ALOT OR A LITTLE ON HER FIRST TIME CUZ I REALLY WANT TO DO IT BUT IM REALLY SCARED TOO CUZ IM GONNA BLEED AND IM A VIRGIN CAN SOMEBODY GIVE A WEB SITE OR SOMETHING. I DONT KNOW HOW TO FIND OUT
 8/9/2005
JOANA WELL NOW THAT IM READING THIS I FEEL MORE SECURE ABOUT MYSELF AND ABOUT DOING IT TOO BUT EVERYBODY TELLS ME THAT FOR A VIRGIN ON HER FIRST TIME SHE BLEEDS AND IM NOT SURE IF IS A LOT OR JUST LIKE LITTLE DROPS I REALLY WANT TO KNOW CAN SOMEBODY ANSWER THAT BECAUSE THATS WHAT KEEPING ME FROM DOING IT. 8/9/2005
curious whats the best position for tha first time 8/8/2005
KnockyourJANK OK. Let me clear this up. It really does NOT hurt that bad the first time, the key is RELAX. RELAX RELAX. If you relax, you loosen up and it goes in sooo much easier. I bled a little bit, which is normal, and I noticed that when I sat down for the next couple days, I could kinda feel a little pain. But, its gone now and I'm fine. But I HAVE A QUESTION. Ok, I only had sex once (about 2 weeks ago) and it was my first time. Before, when I put tampons in, it slid in and I was a little tight around there. Just today, I put a tampon in. I put it in, and it kinda fell out while I was entering the tampon in me..like i felt a lot "looser" down there. Is that just because I had sex and I broke my hymen..or does it mean I'm like really "wide?" (I hope not!) PLEASE answer back and give me a mature answer..thanks! 7/26/2005
Sara Im scared that if i have sex i will start to bleed is this true?
 7/24/2005
Sara Everytime that i have i sex afterwards a whit creamy substance comes out of my vagina.Does that mean that i have cum or not ? 7/24/2005
Hurt Im 16 and have a 10 month old baby boy called leo.Me and my boyfriend have just broke up and im scared that he'll want to take leo off me.Is it true that the mother can decide wether to keep the baby beacause she gave birth or is that wrong ????? 7/24/2005
Worried Im 15 and have had sex a couple of times with my 15 year old boyfriend.My mum and dad werent happy.Ihave now found out that i may be pregnant.Ijust want to tell everyone to take precautions and to wait till your 16 to have sex !!!!! 7/24/2005
Lucy The first time sex isnt as good as later on in life.As the man slowly inserts the penis into your vagina it hurts a bit but soon gets more pleasurable.Everyone have fun ! 7/24/2005
Man Wow! Mahendra, interesting that you remember the date you had it first time. I don't remember the date I had first time sex, the year was 1990 ... or probably 1991 I guess.
Anyone here remember their dates? Post them!		 7/24/2005
mahendra i am 34 year old first time sex 22feb. 1992. 11pm 16 year old girl 7/24/2005
briana i just wanted to kno if it really hurts the first time 7/18/2005
Rose do you have to bleed the first time you have sex? 7/13/2005
jane im cant what 2 have sex i have not had sex be four im wourd what it be like. 7/10/2005
x__romance i'm 13 && i've had sex with my boyfriend [of almost 10 months] we've done it a lot. && to everyone who is soo worried about it. well your vagina does hurt. and you DO bleed. but it'll go away the next day. after having sex a few more times it doesn't hurt or bleed anymore. just don't go having sex right after you've done it for the first time. it'll literally kill your vagina. 7/8/2005
mrs.whitaker what happen to your body when only done it one time and you are a female and its been 2 years ago? do your hole close up ? 6/29/2005
BabeFace I have had sex now more then once.. and I just did today.. and Now I am bleeding.. is that normal? 6/29/2005
japan_fellow Because of age difference. Should a 14 yr old male virgin have first time sex with 21 yr old female. 6/21/2005
kool jack i want to know what it's like the first time,but I'm waiting till im married 6/15/2005
Krystina well i never had sex before I just here about other who did so I'll know what to expect 6/15/2005
wait and to all the 13 yr olds... you need help.. jus wait if youwant it b4 marrage then wait till you can actually get horny... god... 6/12/2005
wait wait till marrage you idiots... 6/12/2005
olga is bleeding after first time sex surely normal ? 6/11/2005
confused sxc ga i relly want to have sex and i'm only 13 everyone in my skool iz talikn about sex and it makes me frustrated wot should i do? 6/8/2005
Ranae I want to knoow how long a woman is suposed to bleed after having sex 6/7/2005
tanish i had sex just a half an hour ago. my boyfriend tended to push his penis in my vagina a little to hard than normal. now i'm bleeding alot and i'm walking really diffrent. how long will this last and what should i do? 6/1/2005
ray for the first time do you ejaculate faster 5/27/2005
becca can u tell me does it hurt the second time you have sex?
 5/26/2005
Candy its not my first time I have been in a relationship 3 years does it supose to to hurt 5/22/2005
Ashley m. What do i do if my boyfriend wants to sex but i have douts? 5/18/2005
ann i have just started dating a dishy guy i want to sleep with him for the first any ideas how to spruice up my sex life 5/17/2005
steve long i think its very good 5/14/2005
kay75 hey i realli need some help

i had sex for the first time this sunday, and since then ive been like bleeding only it doest look like blood most of the time it looks brown... i need to know if this is natural? i have no clue wat to do i cant tell my mom caus she'll totally flip out at the fact that i have had sex... please help

 5/10/2005
peace My fionce tried to enter his panis to my vagina....but is was very difficult and painful to enter......it seems like something i sblocking the way.......how to we go about this.... 5/9/2005
chika i think your solution as same as with me. I agree with your statement. 5/7/2005
goalmoro Me and my partner are both virgins. I the male am not sure how to enter the penis into the vagina. Does my penis need to be rock hard and completely upright? Does the female need to be fully lubricated too? How do I make these two factors work best? 4/28/2005
--- i am still confused about the bleeding, my bf and i have discussed having sex, and we are both ready for it, any advice? 4/28/2005
dawn thanks so much for the information that you posted, it made me feel alot better about sex! 4/27/2005
june IT was nice very nice ,esp with a freand ,in 16,in WC. 4/27/2005
june it was happy,esp with a freand. 4/27/2005
brittany do u cry when u are doing it .wat do i do 4/25/2005
brittany do it hurt when u have sex how do it feel .do u bled when u are doing it 4/25/2005
bowleggedgurl hey i had sex w/ this guy a couple of times,and i was wonderin if im suppose to cum all the time? 4/20/2005
Doyouloveme Well it will be my first time, and i am kind of worried. Hmm i am worried about not being able to fit his penis in my vagina. hmm im not excacly sure what to do and niether does he. 4/19/2005
barbara how long is a woman suppose to bleed after her cherry gets popped? 4/18/2005
rmc boy i think 'seks bebas itu haram dan ia memang haram. jikalau kamu tidak bertaubat sampai mati, nescaya neraka lah tempat kamu'. 4/11/2005
vulva queen I love vulvas! 4/8/2005
as ah.... wala lang
 3/26/2005
hana wow.. wat an amazing research or topic for people of first time sex. its great and good motivator for girls. 3/22/2005
Bagel Steala Thanks for the little pep talk I will use that tech for the first time with the whole gently touching and everything. I hope your advice works to my benefit. 3/20/2005
gogola i want to know if boys blood when having first time sex 3/18/2005
saurabh great 3/14/2005
JESSE24 i need help wit my girl...she is so tight i can fix py penis in there..the fingering part doesnt help out at all..is there anything i can do or any thing she can.like any certain postions? 3/4/2005
ann i have heard it can hurt the time you have sex with a man 2/24/2005
ssell okay what positshon do i have to do?
do i have to come quickly or do i have to take my time plez tell me now. coz she is coming over in the next 2 hrs.
 2/20/2005
ssell=g is there no one awake 2/20/2005
crissy good 2/14/2005
for you It will hurt for a couple of days and there is some bleeding, but nothing that you can't handle. After a while it feels good 2/12/2005
Myrtha rene if you are a virgin will it hurts a lot when you are having sex with your partner? 2/4/2005
kateyd all i want to know is if the cervix opens during sex?
i have not had sex yet but want to be prepared before i do what all can i expect?		 2/3/2005
simi i have just got married and it took me nearly to let my husband have sex becz i was finding it painful, i think it was due to psycholigical reason. My question is few days i did let him do it but since past few days it has been bleeding very little and i am wondering isit normal becz i know that when u have sex first time it suppose to bleed but i didn't bleed just after the first time sex as i noticed very little blood the next morning from my vagina 1/27/2005
Lucy Guys can bleed from breaking a vessel in their penis. It happened to one of my friends when she was having sex with her boyfriend. 1/26/2005
brian i had sex for the first time but i dont beleive i cum at least it didnt feel as though i did does that mean i still cum? 1/24/2005
david Here are some guidelines for the beginners i.e. if you are going to have sex first time. It can help you to explore the pleasure in a better way.

Relaxation is the key. Have sex when you and your partner, both are relaxed. There is not a specific time to have sex. May it be the break of dawn, afternoon or the darkness of night. More important than time of day is the time you have to spend. Have a lot of time to have sex the first time. For 'lot of time' I mean at least the whole day, including sleep time.

So, what do you do if you haven't had sex before? You were friends and now you are in a loving relationship and now you both are sure that the time is right to move on. But first of all make a mental check list of the things that matter. Here are a few thoughts:

Be sure you both want to go further. Alternatives are there - mutual masturbation and oral sex are often just as satisfying, for example. Find a comfortable place where you feel safe. The back seat of an auto, jeep, car or truck isn't a great sensation enhancer. Sex is an intimate activity, but many times people are more reluctant to discuss it. If you can't talk openly, then maybe you need to rethink your plans. You must be legally able to have sex. You must think about contraception and protection from sexually transmitted diseases. The latter being more important if one of you is not a virgin
1/22/2005
integraman2000 hey do the guys ever bleed and why 1/22/2005
Johnny Wazek Alex what is wrong with you? freak 1/20/2005
Alex I am 15 years old and relly want to have sex with this girl from my school. I really want to sextually active with her and have oral sex and intercourse.Do you think i should do this? Why? I sometimes masturbate by looking at her in class.

Please email me with your comments ArmenianPolice@aol.com		 1/19/2005
amber is 13 to young to have sex? well i rle love my boyfriend and he rele loves me and we have done everything but sex!! and i kno that getting him sex will rele make him happy watt should i do should i lost my virginity ?ohh and i have used a dildo b4 and my pussy is not as tight any more am i still a virgin ? 1/19/2005
Beth Okay, so i see a lot of people on here asking about girls bleeding their first time, i'm guessing "popping the cherry." Well, me and my boyfriend had sex for my first time about two nights ago. I'm gonna be honest, i had been drinking that night. But, after we had sex we saw that there was a lot of blood. I was most certain it didnt come from me, but i'm not for sure. Is it normal to bleed that much after your first time having sex or could alcohol have affected it too? 1/19/2005
Ben Has anyone seen the episode of friends when Monica is helping Chandler with his sex life and she draws a womans body and give each part a different number, which parts of the body do the numbers go with? 1/18/2005
for you you don't have to use lubericant unless it starts to hurt the girl when you first enter 1/15/2005
Me Do you HAVE to use lubricant the 1st time? 1/13/2005
John Thank you, finaly a web site that actualy makes sense. I have looked every where to find a brief description but every where expects you to know everything about sex before you have even lost your virginity 1/13/2005
jnc Is there an odor when you have sex, do every girls bleed their first time? 1/10/2005
Bunny Sex for the first time should be "magical" and taken very slow. Kissing and hugging, touching and talking are the main things you need to go through. Make sure that you are comfortable with the whole "sexual intercourse" thing....and most of all, make sure both you and your partner are ready for it!!
Condoms are VERY necessary!!! (You dont wear em?? then you take care of the concequences)
Have fun!!!!!!!!!!and goodluck!!!!!!!!! ps. sum girls bleed alot, but sum dont even bleed at all!!
Thanx, Bunny		 1/9/2005
didi does it hurts 1/5/2005
jen my boyfrend and i plan to have sex this summer for the first time and im worried about the bleeding. How much will i bleed and should we stop i if start bleeding in the middle of having sex? Also is there any special brand of condom that is better in protection then others? 1/5/2005
sara what do you mean to make sure everything is ok? 1/3/2005
Nikki yep dont worry about the pain and yep you might bleed for a couple of days but if you have it more than a week i wud advise u go to the doctors just to make sure everything is ok .

1/3/2005
sara Hey everyone, i have a question that hopefully yall can tell me if all this is normal? the other night i had sex for the first time. It hurt to much to actually go for a long time, but my boyfriend put the condom on well actually it took both of us to put it on cause it wouldn't go on right. we looked at it and made sure it was ok to go. and then we started. nothing happened like he didn't come or anything but i did start to bleed. so we stopped.i have only had a little bit of cramps here and then and its been about 3 days. is all of this stuff normal? 1/2/2005
Simone i was just wondering how long do you bleed for after you loose your virginity?and how much, even tho so far it hasn't seemed like much. it seemed like it was alot when it first happened. Ever since i have bled occasionaly cause i just lost mine the other night and i have had a litttle pain ever since and it happened about 2 nights ago. I don't know if it is pain or cramps? cause im not suppose to start my period for another week and a half. 1/1/2005
Nikki Hey lex. Dont worry u n ya boyfriend will be fine. Yes you will bleed so u might need a pad but everyone is different so u might not bleed a lot at all. If ur tense it will hurt more than normal but if u and ur bf r relaxed the pain wont be bad. Dont b nervous !!! 1/1/2005
lex me and my boyfriend r plannin to have sex this summer. its the first time for the both of us.but i read some of the stuff on this site and its makin me a lot nervous. is there anyone that can help? plz i need to kno. do u realy bleed?how much?do i need a pad isf i do or do i just let it flo?pls answere me. 12/30/2004
Nikki Ive lost my virginity a couple of weeks a go now and just wanted to give advice to ppl cause i think it helps .
for me and a couple of friends of mine it hurt as soon as the hymen broke but after wen u start to relax it dont hurt so much most girls do bleed some just a little some quite a bit but if u relax the pain and the bleeding is a lot less than if ur tense.good luck!!
 12/30/2004
Laryn I just had sex with my boyfriend tonight and all the questions you guys have, i had. If you would like some answers you can email me newyorkbabi224@msn.com I would be more than happy to help you out with your questions. To answer some of your questions that i read though.. it does hurt a little bit but nothing unbearable. If you don't feel comfortable being able to talk to him and tell him if it hurts or ask him to be more gentle than i think you should wait. Also you bleed because your hymen breaks (pop your cherry) and it doesn't mean you have a disease it's natural. It helps if he fingers you beforehand (make sure he wets his fingers first) and is very getntle. The pulling the condom off first and then putting it back on i think is a bad idea because it could make the gurl very nervous about being pregnant. Any questions please email me. I wish i foudn this site before i had sex. I definitely don't regret it 12/29/2004
Jess I agree with that all. I also think though that you really need to communicate during the experience. I know my first time, it was a realli important factor that me and my boyfriend could talk and if it was hurtin a lil more than it should've i was able to tell him. 12/29/2004
lilsena Today i went to visit my boyfriend, we've already discussed having sex and i feel ready... but today we were sort of in a public place (his truck) so instead of just goin into sex he decided to finger me. It hurt so bad! We are both virgins so i dont know if he has clumsy hands since that was his first time or its normal for it to hurt. We were their for 20 minutes but the pain didnt subside... right now it still hurts w/ this go away if i keep doing it? If u have any help for me plz... email me at maria_liliana@msn.com (suzie) Thank u's 12/28/2004
Stephanie i am a virgin. i'm scared to have sex with my boyfriend because i heard that it hurts like hell. I also heard that if the vagina starts to bleed that someone has a disease. If anyone has any comments, e-mail me at sexy_juicee01@hotmail.com 12/27/2004
RMW21 Alot of people told me that the first time having sex hurts? Is the first time painful? and if so how long? 12/27/2004
chase but i prematurely egaculate what should i do?
 12/25/2004
tluha1 just adding on to my last post, if any1 requires further help on this topic feel free to email me tluha1@bigpond.net.au 12/22/2004
tluha1 hey ummm pplz that need help i guess i can help you ... i have been reading alot of the posts in this topic and alot of them seem to be i cant get it in and bleeding etc. so anyway my names ty im 16 yrs of age and me and my g/f just had sex last night for the 1st time after many hours of attempts to get it in it didnt work so ... i tryed puting baby oil (lubricant) on her vagina and fingering her with 4 fingers really carefully and that loosend her up a little bit ... so than i tryed putting my d**k in again and it did not work .... so i took the condom off and i found not using a condom for the 1st few inserts allows ur penis to go inside the vagina and allows her vagina to get use to your penis. so after a few inserts you put the condom back on and it goes in fine ... and the bleeding occurs shortly after u insert and it doesnt hurt when the hymen breaks ... bleeding is roughly 10 / 11 ml's which is about 10 drops of blood. its not much blood but yeah , and u will find after bout 20 inserts she will start to enjoy having sex. anyway good luck pplz and have fun. 12/22/2004
Kristen im still a virgin,,butim afrriadto have sex because i have heard that u bleed alot and i think that would be very embarassing...and anyone help me to know what goes on ??? 12/20/2004
mic sad 12/19/2004
sum1whoknosumtn when it hurts u that means u werent wanting it even if u think u did want it when u r excited about it and u want to do it it shouldnt hurt now i have never had sex b4 but i think my advice is right so ur first time should not hurt if u really truly want it and r excited about it. besides u should be married b4 u have sex but i cant stop u so take my advice about really want it 12/18/2004
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