| Name |
Views and Comments | Date |
| peace |
i want to commit with victor because i love him and i feel so strong |
8/25/2009 |
| -Ms Fly. |
Really good advice and so simple to understand! Definetly want to read the book |
8/14/2009 |
| mema |
its nice |
7/28/2009 |
| Bonita |
That is an great article. It has a lot of wonderfule information and is a great eye opener.
I will go to the book store and check the book out.
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Thank you very much . |
3/3/2009 |
| ab |
I'm 40, my boyfriend of three years is 46. He does love me, we have everything in common, we both know each others' friends and family and also share the same religion (which very much encourages marriage). He claims to want to be married, BUT! It's not happening. Ultimatums and deadlines have failed- I know some of this is my fault. So, what I have decided to do is just accept the situation and enjoy it for what it is for the next few months and apply to graduate school. I have something else to look forward to and distract me when I am forced to finally leave him. It's an incredible waste but when you know you've done all you can, you have to stick to your beliefs. I believe in and want marriage. He is wasting his life by not committing fully. It's sad, but it's how it has to be. |
1/29/2009 |
| girlw/opinion |
I think they are good tips, if you notice everyone that says it didn't work, they were living with their boyfriend. Yes, I am 22 and old fashioned, but why would he need to commit, even if you have all the above and you're living together? Living together is just like being married. Which is why, I believe you should wait. He doesn't have to commit, because he has everything he needs anyway. It's a matter of giving EVERYTHING up to soon. If you live with someone before you're married, and do everything ahead of time. What do you have to look forward to when you are actually married? |
9/16/2008 |
| liz |
great tips, but what wisdom gains in actual committment is still puzzling. i've been confused and still it is getting older and older in trying to solve this dilema |
6/23/2008 |
| liz |
In my personal opinion, to much has been written about this subject of a man's stubborn lack of committment. I personally find it getting my goat, and I wish that I'd finally see the light once in a blue moon on this relationship struggle. So far, no luck and I am bugged again and trying to understand why I am stuck. This article helps clean up the cob webs in the mind, but it doesn't seem crystal clear to me. Something like choosing the Rt Lover might be needed, or all the words of wisdom in the world would end up flushed down the toilet. This means trouble, and I'm still trying to put together time and relationships, and why they just drag on and on without committment. Men love sex, but committment means that he will take it to a higher level, and that is what I'm fighting now. The woman like Julia Roberts somehow is the style, and here I am trying to be good enough, and his dragging it and dragging it is sickening. And then up pops the competition, even if its on tv, and comparisoms and stuff, and back to my home I go, and back to his job he goes. This is his fun fun fun lifestyle, and I am getting older, and sadder, and more confused. Don't really know what to do anymore. Just pray to God, and try not to end up with nothing. |
6/23/2008 |
| Chalo |
Thanks that was exactly what l wanted to hear. Thanks |
6/19/2008 |
| Nicole |
I am living with my boyfriend of 2 and half years and even have a child together. Me leaving him seems to be a bad choice. I love him to death but every time I say marry then he flips out. I have tried the tips. They were not helpful at all. |
5/15/2008 |
| Tribeca |
I had an admirable relationship with the man I loved for 2,5 years. The last year of our relationship, we were living together and all of the above was in our relationship. He still didn't commit, had cold feet when we were planning to get married. And I had to dump him. We've been apart for 4 months and absolutely no contact. So I don't think these 10 items help at all. We already had it and it didn't help us. |
2/3/2008 |
| adel |
that sounds real needy and clingy the worst advice i ever heard insis |
1/17/2008 |
| Gina |
My boyfriend and I had already had all these in our relationship. He still didn't want to commit (after 2,5 years of realtionship, of which 1 year was living together). And I dumped him. It has been a month, I haven't heard anything from him or anybody who knows him. It is as if he had been trying to dump me by not committing... |
11/5/2007 |
| Jessica |
i get my men to commit by shaving and by wearing a g-string and nothing else!!! dancing, playing with his balls and satisfying his every need in bed! |
9/3/2007 |
| Maarten H. |
Ten Tips For Getting Your Man To Commit.
I have been married now for 31 years to the same woman (I think I know what commitment is). Reading the above artical is interesting but also annoying. While its true that getting married must change both partners life (otherwise why would you get married at all), but to think that the wife must remake her man is plain dangerous. My wife (and I expect most women) tried to make changes to suit her whims at the time but she was smart enough to accept the limits (once I told her what they were) of change. Her claim is that the man is the head of the family, but she is the neck which turns the head. However the neck will only turn so far before the head says, enough, or when the neck feels a sudden stab of pain when it has gone too far. Encouraging women to be as manipulative as your artical suggests is courting real desention in the ranks. Because a man is actually the head of his family entitles him to make the decisions which his responsibilities require of him, and a manipulative wife undermining him in the background and behind his back will certainly lead to disaster. |
1/18/2007 |
| In need |
Very good information -I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years off and on. He tells me I nag all the time and I would like him to commit but we get together and break up all the time. I am ready but I need to know a little more about how to make him do what I want lol. He is alot older than me and I know that I have a good head on my shoulders and have what it takes to make a wonderful life. But, he is ok with hotdogs and ramen noodles while I am trying to achieve prime rib/lobster. Do you have any ways for me to really make him listen to me and fall so deeply in love at the same time ?
Thanks so much |
12/28/2006 |
| kerry |
I am 33 i have been with this man know for abut 2years he is a good man i have 2 kids not from hem but he is a good dad to my 2 girl's my girl's are 10&14 but the one thing is me i need some help he says he love me so much he love to span time with me and we do but wan i like to make love to hem it is like he runs from me i try and ask hem Y not and he says to me i am witching t.v or i am tiered i did one time till hem how i fell i say to hem i fell like i am not want it by you i am to fat i say it all and all he can say is i love you but it leant i make it up to you next time but the only time we have sex is wan he is drinking i even try and punt some sexy thing on and still do not work all i love to have from my man is some to make love and have some romance and i just do not know what to do i need some help |
11/17/2006 |
| Confidential |
This is really good right on point you give good advice because those are the things I've been doing and not as from your advice but just based off my feelings and our relationship and your advice describes our relationship I was just passing through to see if I was one the right track so keep it up this is good.... |
10/9/2006 |
| julie |
pretty interesting |
9/27/2006 |
| amit |
great help |
5/14/2006 |
| satdip |
lots of helpful tips, i also think u should put some up for dating teens..cuz i need help.. |
2/2/2006 |
| dania |
I am acting the same but he still does want to commit. |
1/3/2006 |
| pooja |
Thanks for the good tips.. |
12/16/2005 |
| julia |
Its great to be reassured for being real. I just want to love my masculine man --- but he has that pretense/distance. I think I mistook it for disinterest - yet why does he always call me? I love that i can be patient and genuine cause thats all i want anyway. Is something real. I think that if it's right--- it's always right. If it's wrong---it's always wrong. |
5/19/2005 |
| Lisa Williams |
This information is very informative and important especially to those of us whom were raised in non traditional
families, it is hard to lear if no one models and teaches you early in life, what love and committment are really about. most importantly not losing your dignity and identity to please someone else, they will run. this article is awesome at
42 years of age and two abusive relationships I have learned to love me and to respect myself and to share
wheteher I am pleased or displeased.
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8/28/2004 |
| vicky thompson |
this article really helped and made me realise that the things he does are not wrong but just who he is. Thanks alot for your help |
5/12/2004 |
