Cohabiting: the Good and the Bad

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John i also think cohaabitation is a bad idea it ruins relationships 6/2/2011
Ana i completely disagree. compatibility is the main thing you would need to worry about and this is showcased only if you live together. all else follows when both of the parties understand each other and was able to adjust to his/her lifestyle. if you only prove love and trust through marriage, then you shouldn't have married at all. this should already exist during dating and should develop more when you live together. this living together thing is yea, a preparation for marriage. so getting married is part of the plan but is not a priority. it is important that a couple would value compatibility rather than the written commitment which should already exist in the relationship beforehand in the first place. 9/22/2010
Kevin My wife and I have been married for eight years. We did not live together before getting married but were willingly intimate with one another. Months after our wedding, I learned indirectly that she had been in a serious relationship that ended a bit more than a year before we met. I had been in serious relationships too, so I didn't think much of it. But, recently, I learned (again indirectly) that she had lived with this guy and had moved around the country with him during their 3 year relationship. This has stunned me. She wanted to marry him, but he had other ideas. I am not sure how their relationship ended except that it was not peaceful.

Despite this news, I still believe that my wife loves me and is happy to have me. But I do wonder now whether she holds anything back from me emotionally because of the heartbreak she experienced before meeting me. I understand how difficult it would have been to share this past with me, but I think it would have been the right thing to do. If we really loved one another, which I think we do, it would not have mattered and may have even strengthened our relationship.

I think we need to be realists in today's society. But, I think once a couple agrees to live together, it is in effect a marriage. Consequently, I think that I married someone who had essentially divorced before meeting me but I never learned that important piece of information. I want my marriage to work. I am deeply in love but am also really confused now too.		 5/24/2010
CT whens the last you updated this? 5/9/2010
Harry Balls yup go for it 2/10/2010
Christi Hey...

I'm doing a research-proposal and most of it has to be unbias. I was able to gather alot from your layout, and I agree with your opinion =]

Thanks		 11/8/2008
ling yes, i agreed. nowadays, we live in a modern life, living together before marriage is just like a habit. Furthermore, living together with our partner before marriage can make us more understand all about our partner. this may lead to a long lasting relationship. 6/29/2008
Claudia Indeed, simply sex and living together won’t do. There is a certain trust when you know that your partner is loyal to you even before marriage. I mean if one has sex before marriage, the logical question comes up: "well if he/she did it with me ,he might do it with someone else sooner or later". Whereas if you did not have sex before marriage with your future partner, that will be an important trust pillar in your relationship.

 5/16/2007
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