| Name |
Views and Comments | Date |
| jnc |
i believe that north carolina in the us has been more affected by the swinging community then the UK. around here we call it the the swinging capital of the us |
3/1/2009 |
| Katherine |
As someone who has been involved in the lifestyle for quite some time I have observed the behavior of hundreds of couples and there seems to be a couple of common denominators: First and foremost swinging will not rescue a failing relationship, it will ensure it's demise. The couples who enjoy swinging are very clear about what they will and will not accept and how far they will go. There are different levels of swinging from soft to to full swapping and several in between. To the uninitiated swinging and mass orgies are very different. In a controlled environment there are very strict rules. The women are always in charge and "No" really does mean "No". A far cry from the outside world. For me it is a very honest and open way of life. We all have desires and I would rather share and experience my desires and fantasies with my partner. I love the fact that I am no the only person that gives him physical gratification. The best part for us is talking about our experiences together. It has brought us closer and it certainly has not diluted our love for each other. In fact it has reinforced our commitment. Couples who play together- stay together. That said - it is certainly not for everyone. Swinging requires enormous amounts emotional maturity and self confidence. |
2/9/2009 |
| postie |
I think Irene is right here, in that "swinging" is seen as a form of dating. At least by single swingers, though some would be swinging if they were in a relationship. I have known many people who have met on swingers sites, and some have drifted away from the scene, others have become more active.
One thing that is noticeable is the amount of proper dating sites, or companies that have jumped on the swinging bandwagon, often with very little experience of what makes swingers tick. I was a member of one site, that was free, which was sold to a company. The first thing they did was change the registration process to force everyone to say where they were in the UK, by having to submit their postcode. Now this made it very easy for the program they had running on the site, to "match" people locally. But it's the last thing many swingers want to divulge, is the street in which they live! But it made commercial sense to the company now running the site as they could sell membership to people by having a search facility.
The contradictions in a non-swinging company owning a swingers site became too much in the end, and many of us left en-mass to set up a free to use site, where commercial concerns are kept out of the mix. If anyone is interested, you can find the site here: freeswinging.co.uk |
1/8/2008 |
| Chad Neslon |
I think with the econemy the way it is today in america you almost have to go with polygamy or extended family living under one roof. Personaly I would much rather have a second wife then have to be under my parents roof. |
12/3/2007 |
| Peter |
I would like to (humbly) add my own experiecnce.
My wife and I have been together for 11 years, married for 4 and have a year old daughter. We are both professionals, educated and otherwise 'normal'. We became committed and monogamous at a very early age, with the obvious curiosity this would leave as to the potential for our sexuality.
We decided to join a swinging website and have since met a few other couples. We have had safe and enjoyable experiences and both of us feel that this has enriched our sex life as a couple.
This activity is not making up for anything that is lacking, it has allowed us to be more experimental and has allowed us the excitement of that 'first touch' with another whilst remaning in our stable and loving realtionship.
It may be a fad, it may not. However I will add a note of cation, swinging will not fix anything that is wrong, it can ony amplify any insecurities and problems in a relationship. However in our case it has strengthened our bond as a couple.
My love for my wife is not diminished, nor hers for I.
We always ask each other if we are happy before every meeting, and have some strict ground rules as to what activity is acceptable.
I hope that this has helped to add something to this excellent article.
P & L England |
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6/30/2007 |
| Tony Craig |
swinging changes the very ethos of a relationship. Wives become dominant as they realise their talents and ability to attract any male, or so she thinks! I have been running swingers resorts for 10 years and I have writen several books about my experiences (Not found a publisher yet). They show how the scene affects a couple from start to end, by end I mean divorce, 45% of swingers end up divorced and it is usualy the wife who initiates it, or causes it. I have sat and talked to many husbands and wives and I never once found perfection in a swinging relationship, unless the couple never realy cared that much for one-another! Swingers make rules and they break them, but the one rule that, if broken, will lead to divorce is, never lie to your partner, about anything, even your thoughts. If a partner tells the truth about every aspect of an encounter with other swingers or singles, then she/he has done nothing wrong, if lies start it's because you did/felt something that you could not tell your partner, next step arguments, last step divorce. Ironically, most swingers after suffering a divorce, they end up back at a club where they meet wife number two, these second generation swingers marriges often last. Once a couple have found out what went wrong, they are more careful the second time around. My first book, The Reluctant Wife Swapper tells it all in graphic detail, the fun and the horror, the fights and the heartbreak, the whisky and the divorce. I still run a club, but I never want to swing. |
11/18/2006 | |
