You Can Write a Great Best Man Speech

So, you've been asked to be the best man. Chances are, you know the groom quite well. Maybe you also know that at the wedding reception, you'll be expecting to give a toast - a best man speech. To help you prepare for the speech, here are just a few things you should remember.

*Prepare! Don't try to wing it. Even if you're quick-witted (of course you are!), even the most glib person's mind can go completely blank without warning.

At the very least, write down a few key phrases and points to bring up if you don't feel like writing the whole thing.

*It's okay to be funny, but be serious. Sure those are conflicting elements, but it's important to remember. Without a little humor, you risk boring the guests.

However, it's imperative to remember that your best man speech is a tribute to a couple's new life together. You can be sure that the two of them take their marriage very seriously, and they want to know that you honor that. And remember, sarcasm may be an appreciated form of humor in the right situation, but a wedding is NEVER the right situation.

*Keep it brief. Please don't ramble on. Before the big day, practice giving your speech in front of another person. Watch them. If their eyes glaze over, you need to trim down your speech.

*Go easy on the anecdotes. Whatever you do, avoid telling stories about old wives and girlfriends, and avoid reminding all the guests about something particularly embarrassing. This won't endear you to your friend's new wife. If your buddy's wife doesn't like you, don't expect to see much of your friend after the wedding is over.

*Talk about something you like or admire about the bride-- if it's appropriate! See the previous tip about endearing yourself to her.

*Above all, be sincere. You were chosen as best man for a reason. Remember that, and share your joy in your good friend's happiness, and your best man speech will be remembered with thanks.