Why do Marriages Fail?

Now this is a very sensitive and debated topic that I have here today and there are so many answers for this one question that it is difficult to reach a well-structured conclusion as to why marriages fail. So some fail even when there are no reasons for failure and some last longer than usual even when there is more than one reason for that marriage to break. So is it possible to deduce a theory out of so many cases of failed marriages and sustained marriages. I will try and probe further regarding the things a marriage is dependent upon and the reasons of failure.

Why should one get married?

Now when you have decided to marry or are being forced in to marriage by parents and you are considering the proposal, you should ask yourself this question as to why should a person get married. Why do you want to get married? If the answer comes that you need a companion, ask yourself, if you will be able to deal with the imperfections of a different person who would share everything that is yours- from bed to bathroom. Is it okay with you? Will you be able to take the fact that your spouse might not be like you and might just have different preferences? Yes most of us take the plunge before answering these questions, which arise in our mind. A discussion with your own self is a must before you tie the knot and bring someone else into your confusions.

When do People Drift Apart?

It has been discovered by researchers that most of the marriages that have failed things have been going wrong from the time the partners met which is certainly before marriage so it is obvious that there is a certain failure in choosing the right kind of a person or understanding the basic differences between oneself and one’s partner. In the early phase the partners are so engrossed in each other’s outer appearance that they fail take a peek inside. They fail to understand that when people live together only 10% of the relationship is dependent on physical relationship, the rest is dependent on the way both of you think and react to various things. I have seen marriages where the issue is the extremely dominating nature of one of the spouses, now when you check you might just find out that the issues can be as silly as cleaning the cupboard or fetching a glass of water. Simultaneously I have seen happy marriages where the decisions and finance are all dependent on one of the partners and the other partner is absolutely fine with it and the reason behind this compatibility can only be two: either the dominated one has no spine or the one who is dominating gives the other person enough respect and acknowledges the fact he/ she has been invested with a duty and responsibility.

Common Reasons Behind a Failed Marriage

Overwhelming expectations, overpowering urge to prove oneself right and lack of understanding often leads to such wounds in the relationship that no ointment of love or sympathy later can heal it. The wound only becomes more and more severe and ultimately one day the partners decide to call it quits. This is the narrative of most marriages that fail but a given an afterthought one can find that the relationship could have survived with patience and less egotism.