What Men Like in Women

Uncountable times, I have heard women stand up in unison and say at their loudest voice, "Men will always be men, we know what they want". Only if they knew... what we really want. Culturally and socially, men have been stereotyped to be "female hunters" or precisely, "sexual predators". While men fail every time to get the slightest idea of what women can think and act in the very next moment, men are no less complex and puzzling!

What Men Like in a Relationship
It seems that the idiosyncrasies of both genders is a necessity for their peaceful coexistence! All those women who have been patiently waiting to know 'what do men like in a woman', read further to discover the minds of men! And yeah, I'm honestly going to tell you what men really want from women (Believe me, we don't lie always!)

Physical Intimacy
Ok, ladies, you needn't frown, by physical intimacy, I frankly mean kisses, hugs and...sex. We at times are obsessed with sex and sports (may be our genes are constituted such) and we may wish that you should look like the next Bond girl! But then, hang on, this doesn't mean we end up here. There is a lot more to men than that meets the eye. We do honestly wish to take sometime and know our women. And let's not just pretend it is men who like sexually active partners. Even women do want it, though they may not be so vocal about it (or are they?).

We do cross boundaries of lust and we do have special craving to be really special for our special someone! Sharing and exploring finer dimensions of our girl's personality is what we really want to do. Physical bonding is just one of the many many desires of men. We look for it but we don't run only after it. We are much more deeper than the realms of that "physical" word. And there are various other reasons men like women. Honestly! C'mon you have to believe us!

Attractiveness
Before you grossly misjudge attractiveness to just one dimension of physical beauty, let me make you aware that attractiveness is quite a relative concept and can have different meanings for every man. While I don't deny that a nicely chiseled slim and well rounded figure, long hair, beautiful eyes and stunning smiles can sweep us off our feet, those are not the only traits that can drive us crazy!

Elegance and confidence of the woman often are more important criteria for men (for most of us). A dressing sense that exudes sensuousness in a positive manner has a huge appeal for men. More than being a blond, we want women to look beautiful in their own comfort zone! We love if women dress up for us. Attractiveness can spring from the way you talk, from your sense of humor, behavior and expressive prowess! Show off nature of a woman is extremely annoying for men. Being yourself is always the safest path for both, men and women, especially in a healthy relationships.

Some of obvious things men love about women are not difficult to comprehend. A brightly lit face with a tinge of sweet smile, hair falling down to the shoulders and a few enigmatic glances can leave us bewitched! We don't like dumb women and we appreciate a soft and sweet voice instead of shrilling and loud mouthed females. We find you attractive when you are adventurous and even at times if you are a prankster. We find attractiveness in those females around whom we feel comfortable. We don't expect you to be perfect a 10, a little less is never a problem. After all, nobody is perfect.

No Nagging and No Bitching
Girls, we know, bitching is an integral part of your nature, so without explaining you much about bitching, in which you all already have a mastery, I would just like to say, we HATE it. Seriously, we can never tolerate it. It sometimes goes beyond our logic to give some of our expert comments on your bitching topic(s) so we remain silent, nodding our head with only 'Yes' and 'No' signs.

You can talk to your girlfriends but then when you come to us, don't expend your energy again on the same topic. We can talk about soccer or even ice hockey but we can hardly digest serious bitching. Now don't think of us as insensitive beings. We are always ready to listen to you on any matter. Men admire women who don't bitch to them! Aren't there more beautiful topics to talk about?

Nagging is another repelling factor for men. Although we're used to nagging since our childhood by our mothers, we never want it do be done by you! Give us our due space and sometimes freedom! We will come back to you, at the end of the day. Nagging is what men never like, never ever! We love to be listened to and cared for. So when we are with you, we expect that there are better things to talk than bitching! And when we're around you, we really don't get your gossips and discussions!

Trust, Love and Care
What men love about women are their sweet gestures that shower love upon us. We love when you slowly whisper in our ears, 'I love you honey'. We love when you pamper us at least once in a while. Being treated like a kid sometimes does give us some sense of assurance and much-needed love. So, when you cook for us we feel more than happy. We love when you shop for us and we love when you reply to our calls and texts, be it in the midnight or wee hours of morning. We love your surprises and crackling laughter.

No matter how free we act, deep down in our hearts, we do need a sense of security. If you ever wondered when do men truly become serious, then at some stage, when our testosterone is balanced and wisdom takes over our recklessness, we do wish to be in a serious relationship. The feeling of security in a relationship does matter to us and here we want a woman who can build our trust and make us believe that we can win the world (with some doses of ego feeding).

Occasional pampering, you know, helps us to make the seemingly impossible, possible. At sometimes, we get annoyed when you try to cut through our ego and if you say we can't do this, we can't do that. Someone who can accept a certain part of our craziness and love us unconditionally (we do respond back with the same) is what we admire in women.

Mutual trust and understanding is the biggest need of every man who wishes to be in a committed relationship. So in essence, men seek out for understanding partners, as in the long run, we want abundant love and we feel that only an understanding woman can give us that.

Chamber of Secrets!
Often I feel women are like angels (Ok, ladies can feel proud, no problem) and when I say so, I don't imagine them to be in possession of some magic wand that makes men do something as per women's order! As a popular saying goes, a woman can either make or break a man and certainly, they have something magical, some 'chamber of secrets' that can direct man's energies from female hunting or recklessness, channelize them, give a specific path and really make them! Not surprising, men often say that their wife or girlfriend is the best thing that has happened to them!

We do feel that women make a significant contribution in our success, both in professional and personal life. Men may not show that they wish to be guided and possessed, but their softer side does feel that being possessed is in itself an amazing feeling! A partner to share our deepest desires, joys and pleasures are some of the qualities what guys like in women.

No Infiltrators!
Call it a male ego, but seriously, we don't like you to talk too much about your ex or too much about this guy or that guy! Many females will define it to be a manifestation of the big male ego or precisely jealousy or even insecurity, however, the matter of fact is, we hate it. It pisses us off. Mind it, I have stated, we don't like talking 'too much about your past...' so don't assume we are intolerant or insensitive. We are ready to listen to you, in fact we love to listen to you, understand you and love you but when someone tries to infiltrate the our-heart-zone-territory, we can, at times be violent and break their head.

And it's true, the reverse ways also, even women won't accept infidelity or any extramarital affairs. So if you are with us, we dislike talking too much about your ex, seriously. Bonding and trust from a woman's side is the most important quality what men like in a woman. For men, someone is THEIRS is what makes them dance in joy and so it does to a woman (Isn't it?).

Relationships and marriage are a process of growing up with your partner. Besides growing old, one has to grow up with the partner, at every level of human dimension. When a man really likes a woman and I mean really, he does experiences a different realm of world. In this world, things do move beyond the physical (sounds archaic, but it's the ultimate truth) and his energies transcend "love" to be more than a physical or emotional experience. However, this stage comes to different men at different ages. For some men, the "happy realization" that his partner has been the best gift ever to him comes late and for some it comes early (lucky few!).

And those men do get a sense of personal and spiritual satisfaction. Once attained and felt, this drives men, who are supposed to be egoistical or "tough species" or whatever they are called, to act selflessly for their love! Unconditional love, that is what is experienced surpassing all human limitations. At such a stage of love, men truly feel what Antoine de Saint-Exupéry has beautifully expressed, "Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction".

Last but not the least, there is no fixed formula or standard that can read a man's mind and tell his thoughts about a lady. Depending on individual preferences, different men may like different attributes in women. So ladies, if you still don't get what's written here, you needn't worry. Just like you, even we are also very confused creatures. So who knows the very next man you encounter is exactly the opposite of what's written here! But still there is always hope in love! Honestly!