Ways to End Relationships

Amanda really dreaded the thought of being with Gary. Somehow, it never seemed like the good ol’ days. She knew her relationship was not going to work out with him, but she really didn’t find any solutions to end that relationship, on a good note. As Amanda battled this question daily and continued to think about various ways to end the relationship without hurting him, she got little success with the result that both individuals remained unhappy in the relationship for a long period of time. This reached a point, when none could bear it any longer to be with each other, due to the constant bickering and endless arguments.

Any relationship would never prosper when either of the partners remains unhappy for a prolonged period of time. Sometimes, it may prove to be better to part ways rather than drag the relationship to a point when it becomes embarrassing to either of the two individuals. But, one of the most difficult tasks would be to actually letting go of a relationship. When you probably had enough of your boyfriend’s wayward behavior or you are tired of your ever-suspicious girlfriend, it may sometimes prove to be better to end the relationship rather than the relationship being a burden on you. Thinking of ways to end relationships may really be a difficult affair, after all how many of us can think of going up to the partner we once loved and simply say that this is the end of the road? It is so easy to fall in love and so difficult when it comes to letting go of a relationship!

This reminds me of a quote which should prove to be apt for this situation, "Giving up doesn’t always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go." (Author Unknown). You may think about various ways to end relationships-send a message through a friend or maybe even through Sms. Before you start thinking about how to end a relationship, do try to know the crux of the matter. Maybe you are overreacting or maybe it can be solved with mutual consent. Try to think if you can solve the problem rather than running away from it, by ending the relationship.

In case, you have already thought about the reasons and nothing can change your mind than try to take a respectable approach towards letting go of the relationship. Treat your partner with respect (I know you would hate me for saying that), this might at least make things easier for the break up. Screaming and ranting at your partner about how he/she has been the worst person around may not be the wise thing to do. You need to do this amicably, although I know many do not believe in ending a relationship on a ‘good note’. You must realize that bitter feelings will definitely be harbored and your partner is not going to happy and give you hug for what you said! (Unless he/she has a mutual feeling and wants to break up as well!)

If you are still thinking how to end a relationship, you need to stop thinking about the ‘just friends’ factor. This would not always work for everybody. Sometimes, being friends can be problematic when you move on to another relationship and pangs of jealousy are bound to happen with your ex.

Think of a good location to break the news. Avoid crowded places unless you want everybody to hang on to every word; in case there is a scene. Look for a place where you can have a little bit of privacy as tantrums and tears are bound to follow.

A face-to-face encounter would be a better way to end a relationship rather than a curt voicemail message or an Sms. Although personally, I have used the latter, having a face-to-face encounter can help you sort of the problem and put forth your reasons in a better manner. If you still have the jitters and you think you may not be able to handle your partner, than a phone call can just sort out the issue. Sometimes, letting of a relationship may not really be easy for your partner, and he/she may not be able to take no for an answer. Then you would definitely need to toughen up your act and dump him/her at the earliest, being really blunt about the whole thing.

Breaking up can never be easy. Do not get into the blame game, as it would only cause more arguments and discussions. After all, you do not want to get into endless and painful talks that will last the whole night long. Therefore, when you talk it out, avoid blaming the other person, express why you felt the relationship went wrong and how strongly you feel about moving on.

Give him/her a chance to express some views about the entire matter. This would help the person feel better about the fact that you did give a chance to clarify and it can also solve issues for many. You might even call off the break up if there has been a misunderstanding! Unless you have really and truly made up your mind, then you can let him/her have a say and still be firm on your decision.

Try to control your feelings and emotions. Remember, you will definitely need to move on and time is the best healer. Think about all the troubled times and try to constantly remind yourself why you are dumping him/her and wishing to be away. Tears and depressing moments are bound to follow but you need to take it in your stride. You have to put up a brave front and be firm about letting go of the relationship.

Breaking up is also not the end of the world. If something is not working out for you despite all your efforts to make it work, it is better to move on and begin life on a new note! Maybe this Valentine’s Day would have a special someone who is really suitable for you in every aspect! Don’t lose hope, whether you plan the break up or are being dumped. This is just God’s way of letting one know there is something better around the corner, waiting for you!