Unreturned Love - What to Do When Your Girlfriend Just Wants to be Friends

We all want to be madly in love with someone, better yet, we all want to be in love and have that love returned. Unfortunately, one person's love for another does not guarantee that the other person will love back. So what do you do when you find yourself head over heels in love with someone that doesn't appear to share those feelings, or perhaps expresses that they only want to be friends?

First, don't count yourself out until you've fully played your hand at winning them over. It may seem hard for some to believe, but the 'love at first site' expression we hear so much in the Hollywood tear jerker movies is rarely experienced in the real world. In fact, many times you'll find that some of the most loving relationships started out as two people that didn't like each other very much. Love tends to grow on people.

To understand why a woman wants to be friends instead of a lover is a very difficult thing to grasp. It isn't always due to the "chemistry" between the two couples. Instead, it has much more to do with how the woman feels around the person. Women are emotional creatures. Someone that can tune into a woman's emotion is someone with a very good chance of winning her heart. Understanding a woman's point of view, listening, showing compassion, telling her how valuable she is, telling her how much her feelings matter, these are all emotional triggers that can quickly move you from the 'friend' category to the 'he's really interesting' category, which is definitely where you want to be.

Friends on the other hand, tend not to trigger any emotional switches. They agree because they're your friend. They show support, and will fight with you, but the deep emotional and compassionate support isn't there. Look at it this way, say one of your friends came up to you and told you they were in a fight in a bar with someone that beat them up. I'd bet you'd be furious and ready to fight for your friend, right? Now, what if your old girlfriend (whom you still have feelings for) told you the same story? A different emotion is sparked isn't it? A different response is generated as well.

I know what it's like to love and not have that love returned to you. In fact, my ex walked out on me because I didn't satisfy her emotional needs. I did a lot of soul searching and eventually won her back using some amazing Relationship Fixing Techniques.