Understanding Women in Relationships

Have you observed happy couples anywhere? Don't say that a happy marriage doesn't exist, it does, you don't see it because you have a preconceived notion about marriage which is, unhappiness for eternity. Some couples are highly successful in their personal and professional lives. Remember I have used the word "some" over here, not all, because some lucky men have the brains and patience required for understanding women. This list of women not only included their wives and girlfriends; but also their sisters, mother, friends and colleagues. You will agree that having a good working relationship with your colleagues is one of the most important things that a man can do. So how do some men do it and others can't. Let's have a look at some more information on this matter.

The most common answer of a married man when asked about his wife is, "She still baffles me". Isn't that weird, your wife is still a mystery to you. I'd say, it is a good start. It is nice that there's still some mystery in the marriage which keeps it exciting. However, it is necessary that you keep up with the tune of your woman. This would help in maintaining and preserving your relationship. Believe me, the topic of understanding women will fill far more books than the topic of understanding men.

Understanding Psychology of Women in Relationships

Women are different from men and, regardless of what you have heard since so many years, they can be understood. They are like theorems, you just need to know the formula, if you have understood that, the rest is pretty easy. In relationships, the most important point to remember is that women are like roller-coasters, they often go haywire with emotions, decisions and situations. Hence, they always want their man to be firm and stubborn. That's why you'll realize that the most beautiful ones prefer abusive and controlling partners. The second most important thing to do for a woman is to make her feel that she's the single most important person in your life. They want attention, care and possessiveness. No matter how much your partner tells you she doesn't like controlling men. The truth is, woman can't live without one and if you don't show your caring side, you are bound to lose her to someone else.

Women prefer security, they need to feel safe with their partner. The word security over here has different definitions. Some women will even live with a cheating spouse, because he is financially well-settled. For some women money is security. If you want your woman to feel secure with you, listen to her. More than talking, women want a man who can listen and give opinions and not judgments. A woman doesn't want a man to solve her problems, she just wants someone who can keep quiet and listen to her. Don't always be a nice guy, that's never a turn on. This doesn't mean start hitting her, it simply means you be a jug of sarcasm and emotions. You just need to understand when to pour the right liquid. Women hate men who kiss their shoes. Women need men who can keep them on their toes. They are gamers but that doesn't mean that you play manipulative games with them. It simply means that you give her the game she wants to play and then take charge at the right time.

Controlling Women in Relationships

If you are dealing with a controlling woman, it is good to understand her nature. Women who insist on controlling everyone around them pretty much exist everywhere. Even if you're lucky enough that she isn't your wife, you must be knowing someone who is a control freak. These are women that no one enjoys being around, they are overbearing, dominating and difficult to get along with. However, just because some women are controlling that doesn't mean that they don't love their partners. It is totally a man's vision of what he sees in her; a jailer, a dictator or a possessive lover. I know many men who like being in a controlling relationship because they believe that they have something to look forward to every time they come home.

Most men actually love women who control everything but they might worry about it sometimes. Men normally start doubting themselves, whether they have done everything that there is to do. Women always want to know what their men are doing and men try to do the same things, we men feel that behaving as per our woman's guidelines keeps relationship issues far. In fact a relationship, where a woman is the boss and the man is a servant works well but not for a long time. Some day or the other a man would want to break free and do things that he was not allowed to do. When a man breaks boundaries that his wife has carefully imposed on him, the relationships go for a toss. However, it is difficult for a woman to understand that she's wrong on her part. So over here a man has to drink a whole jug of patience and acceptance and make her realize that a relationship is a 50-50 effort and not a one person thing.

Don't try too hard to understand a woman, they believe in change, so enjoy all the good moments with her and never do something which you are not supposed to do. Relationships don't come with a guarantee card; you have to make sure it works and the only way to make it work is to go out there and face it.