Understanding Women - Advice for Men
So, figuring out what women really expect from you, has been no less than an ordeal for you? You've tried to understand her but have miserably failed? Demystify the age-old myth that women are absolutely difficult to be understood by reading this piece of advice.
Understanding women remains a mystery, as intricate as the black hole concept. If you think likewise, I would say, you're quite mistaken. Women indeed are a wonderful gift of the creator to mankind. They're also the most enigmatic and the most beautiful creation on this Universe. Beauty, grace, simplicity, love, care and concern are so meticulously fabricated in their genes that they swiftly change roles and share numerous responsibilities. Bestowed with the ability to create and carry a life in their wombs and with abundant love in their hearts, they form the lifeline of this Universe.
From being a mother, to daughter, sister, friend and wife - they're masters of multitasking. The radiance and happiness they create in any place brings life and longevity. And mind you, I'm not at all overtly describing women. These are the fundamental truths of existence. They're so true that they have been taken for granted. And that's why, believe me, truly knowing a woman, has become a problem for a majority of men. That's why the 21st century dating world is all obsessed (yeah, I would say obsessed to the core) about touting women to be 'difficult-to-understand' creatures. I believe it has all been hyped, more than necessary. I mean women may be different in body constitution and behavior (and yes, they are different) but they are not so difficult to be understood.
To understand them in a better way, all it is required to follow some fundamentals of a healthy relationship. Women rarely want stars or moons or out-of-the-world promises [though they listen about them the most:-)]. All they want is love and then some more love, with kindness, integrity and care. Believe me, any sane woman is an amazingly unique creation. Forget for a moment that she is a business tycoon, or the new diva (all dressed up in a sexy attire) or a simple housewife. Women, in essence have that creativity and zest of life that understanding them is not a herculean task. But if you're a man, who is finding it utterly difficult to understand women in relationships, then follow these simple tips. Believe me, you'll be able to create a beautiful relationship by implementing them.
They Love to Communicate
Ever saw a woman who rarely speaks!! I haven't seen one. Well, that is the most basic characteristic feature of women. Listen to your lady special. Listen, Listen, listen some more and then speak. I understand you can't always talk to women as they can be sometimes really talkative [ladies, C'mon accept it :-)] but then you needn't be someone who has to be forced to talk. Sometimes, you both may talk like kids or childish stuff, but then there's no harm in being funny, occasionally. But when she is on a serious note, do give her total attention. Shut down all your distractions. Guys, when she speaks, you've got one aim, LISTEN to her. Without that, she will always remain a mystery and remember, women don't always directly say what they mean, they just love to take some circuitous path. I know guys can feel confused as how to figure out what women want men to know but the trick is to give some thoughts to her subtle hints. Moreover, provide her assurance that she can be frank with her needs and desires with you. Once she sheds the inhibition of any negative reaction from you, she will for sure, be more solved and communicate to you, more frankly.
They Want Security
Women, whether they admit it or not, need security. And so they expect their partners to be self confident, established and caring. And mind you guys, if you're not someone who believes in open relationships or is polygamous, don't you want security in your relationship? A capable man who is decisive and can confidently handle tough situations is always preferred by women rather than someone who is wavering and indecisive. As a husband, ensure she feels secured with you in all aspects - social, financial, physical and emotional. What women find attractive in a man is not just good looks but also a mix of good personality skills.
"Honey, we don't talk like we used to in our initial relationship" - if your lady says this to you, do you know what it really means? Well, it means that she doesn't feel closer to you like earlier and she is worried about the relationship. This is just like a warning bell. Don't expect her to directly say she is worried about the relationship. She is so much in love with you that even if she wants, she won't try to straight way come up with reality. She may hint with her words.
They Want Romance
Guys, before you conclude romance equals sex and only sex, I would frankly say, it's not exactly that. By romance, I do mean sex as it's a crucial part but for women romance is more of a perennial source of being in romantic love like cuddling, care, affectionate hugs and kisses. So if you've been drop dead boring in your approach to physical intimacy, why not learn some tips on how to make love. Most importantly, express your lady, about how you feel and think about her. Express guys!
They Want Validation
Your partner must have asked you very often, "Dear, do I look OK in this outfit"? What do you think she really meant? Well, even if the dress is looking fine on her, she may be a bit insecure about her physical appearance. Validate her, appreciate her and say to her that she is looking fine. Don't say all this, if the dress is not looking good on her (obviously!). Just appreciating her natural beauty with some romance is all that it requires to pep up your love life. Women inherently require appreciation and there is nothing wrong or right in it. Even men do require validation and appreciation in tasks they do and the way they dress. Make her feel special, help her in her wardrobe selection and just observe how elated she feels!
They Want Respect
Although, this needn't be discussed here, as it is obvious that every individual seeks respect in life and women are no exceptions to it but guys, respect her as a woman and be kind and caring to her. I know it may sound childish to advice matured individuals that respect your partner when respect for each other must be the foundation stone of every relationship. But this forms the most important love advice for men. Male chivalry is never obsolete, it's a precious commodity, especially in today's era. Respect her decisions, involve her in your life decisions and see how beautifully she creates your life.
They Like to be in Control
Women, just like men who're possessive about their partners (we all are possessive to some extent [:-)]), can often turn out to be control freaks. I don't use control freak in a negative connotation. It just means she will advise you to do things in a certain way and she will help you take better decisions. She will deftly arrange every room of the house and she may even impose restrictions not to bring the puppy inside or to keep shoes outside. She may control your house but don't you think this is all what make marriages work? A little bit of control from both sides is crucial to keep the relationship going on a higher note.
Hopefully, this small guide to understanding women in relationships is not complicated for you to understand. We know the basics, but still we create unnecessary chaos that she is not understanding or she is quite complex. Strengthen your foundation of relationship and simplify your expectations. Gradually, you'll know how important she has been in your life. Get your facts right, develop tolerance and try to work out issues. Wish you all the best for a beautiful life!
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