Two Humans in Love

Two humans are in love.

What can be learned?

Rationally seen: According to scientific studies the human tends to fall in love with others who look about like former close attachment figures. That agrees with the theory that humans in love like to relive the nest from their young childhood: Safe, secure, soft and warm. First of all the fulfilling of this need results in a lower capacity of the cognitive abilities.

That provokes that people in love are lacking vulnerability: Everything is rose-colored. It’s in discussion if the chemical substance phenylethylamin is responsible for that. Unfortunately, or maybe good so, the brain, better said the nerve endings get used to it. The euphoric effect vanishes and with it the higher emotional capacity too. Now it's important how two human beings deal with this kind of change and what keeps them together because withdrawal syndromes may occur.

Love as a huge challenge of humans is a guarantor that a human being experiences a fulfilled life. It should, even has to be distinguished if a love, later on addiction is and has to be satisfied from the outside, or if a love is a deep, autonomous feeling. In the beginning both phenomena might be the same for the human but the first form of love is dependent of external factors while the internal love can really become a constant factor.

Highly sophisticated therefore unfortunately relatively unknown is the more fulfilling internal kind of love. It can be characterized as genuine happiness because it's as far as possible independent of issues, situations and happenings. While a little child isn't able practicing it so is very dependent of the outer conditions, in fact a more mature mind will (be able to) tend and is asked to create love as a free experience accordingly.

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