Top secrets to success -- an easy guide

Why I did one thing and why I escaped from another? Do you have dreams, some beautiful dreams? Have you ever wanted to find a good enough girl to be your wife or a handsome boy as your husband? Have you ever thought to have a lot of money so that you can do anything you want without worrying about no moeny? Are you interested in a villa at the seaside, a sports car in the garden?

But only 20% of all can achieve their goals. Why? Now let’s share some questions again? Do you have such an experience that you were absorbed in something and completed it wonderfully? You were in a state of absorption that you had ignored things happened around you? I think you will say yes because I think people come to my site are all smart people, they have the ambition to get improved, to be a great man or women. You can say I have not worked now. oh, right, are you a student? What is your opinion on the question above when you were experiencing exam? Are you absorbed? Why? Are you interested in some books, TVs, Videos? When you are reading or watching them, what was your behavior towards that question? Yes, we can all do things with devotion, but not all things, only some things, right?

What are the differences between the things you can be absorbed in and the other things? The time spent on it? Other people’s opinions? Money? Love? Achievability? Escape being scolded? And so on. We can find we all have many reasons to do or not to do. Something we have done is to escape some miserable experiences; while on the other hand, we can achieve some happiness in spirit or only in body. For example, watching TV is because of our interest on it and it will bring laugh to us or it will guide us to a colorful world or it will make us experience a different life which we cannot live in reality. We spend lot of time reading book because they can bring us peace, thoughts, ideas and enrich our knowledge and life, at the same time, books also provide us a different world, when we are in it, we have started an interesting and unique experience. We are absorbed in examination because we want to prove ourselves, test our ability of solving problems, and escape from the feeling of bad grades.

In the theory of NLP, we all have two basic emotions: happiness and pain. Escaping from pain and seeking for happiness is the basic and strongest power of promoting us to move. Suppose If you know you can certainly get $10000 only if you can complete some job in one hour and if you spent less time, you will get more. What will you do? I think you will be active to not only complete that job but also complete it in shorter time. The good result is so clear and certain and the only thing left is just to work. You are attracted by the attractive result, and another important thing is the result is at your fingertips. In this situation, we will get enough motivation to work or to take some actions.

So for a concrete goal, If we can see it’s benefit, believe we can achieve it and the time spent on it is not beyond our patience, we can certainly complete it, and if there is extra good when we can complete it quickly or smartly, we will pay more attention to do it.

Detailed exploring of the four secrets

So what are the top secrets to success? Concrete goal, clear and gainable benefits, enough confidence and the last element: quick, numerous and smart actions. The four secrets are necessary for a successful person. Each of these four secrets can be optimized to accelerate the procedure of achieving goal and success. Without one of the first three secrets, you will certainly slow down your steps towards success at least, while without the last secret, you will certainly fail. But in fact, if you have paid more attention to the first three secrets, you can also do well in the last one. If we must order the four secrets in importance, the order in my opinion is just like the order which I have listed them in.

Concrete goal, clear and gainable benefits are elements which we can make clear wholly. This is easy to understand. But there is one point to be mentioned: don’t hesitate to set a high enough goal only if you can judge it will not violate the moral principles and all kinds of laws. Benefits here mean the happiness you can get while achieving the goal and the regret or pain you will feel when losing this goal. But instantly two problems come out: what is a concrete goal? How to describe the benefits? A concrete goal means a goal is measurable, specific. For example, it is not enough to say: I want to make enough money, while to say I want to make $5000 this year/this month/ is better. So you can see that when setting up goals, using concrete number and clear time to describe your goal will make a goal more attractive. Then for the second benefits, you can consider from such aspects: what will the goal give to your lover, your family, your parents, yourself and friends? What influences (if any) will the goal have on your motherland or the society? At the same time, you can also describe the benefits from the view of study, work, family, etc.

Next perhaps you will doubt that how can I get enough confidence? Can the degree of confidence be decided by us? The answer is ok. Confidence can be trained only if you will. I will write another post on how to train your confidence. Now just suppose if you have strong confidence on yourself when working to achieve your goal, what will happen? You will find all the difficulties are only the friends to help you move forward and the solving procedure of problem is so interesting and memorable.

Enough actions are important, while quick and smart actions are more important. There are many solutions to solve one problem, and to achieve a certain goal is in fact a procedure of solving many different problems. Every solution has its cost which will have a direct influence on the time you will spend on achieving a goal. How to choose a solution is an open question, you can only pay attention to the effect of the actions to find you are now close to or far from your goal. Of cause, carefully thinking of the actions is sometimes necessary and will help you save time and energy. During the procedure of actions, the first three secrets are must be paid more attention to to keep the effect of your actions.