Third Date Rule

As most of us know or eventually learn with experience, for a relationship to be a success, it should always progress from love, commitment, emotional attachment to physical intimacy and sex. There are very slim chances that a relationship will last long term if it is the other way round. However, the media has been singing an altogether different tune, with many famous characters such as "Rachel Green" in the hit television series "Friends", swearing that sex is a must or usually happens on the third date. This rule has become so popular that today many youngsters who are dating wonder about the third date expectations. So if you too are confused, given below are some tips to help you out.

Third Date Tips

Let's start with dissecting the third date rule. Some people are of the opinion that the third date actually determines whether the relationship has a future or not. In other words, if the sexual relationship does not begin on the third date, the relationship is doomed. According to this concept, the first date is about getting to know each other and trying to figure out whether there is any chemistry. The second date is about having fun together by undertaking some activity which both can enjoy and the third date is when the two get physically intimate. This etiquette is however highly debatable.

When it comes to taking a relationship to the next level i.e. initiating a physical relationship, it is not the number of dates that matter, it is the depth of feelings that you have for one another, which should determine whether you are ready for sex or not. Feelings, just like any other human emotion, take time to develop. Some people share an amazing chemistry very early on in a relationship while others may take months! So, whether you have sex on the third date or the seventh date or after months of dating, should actually depend upon how you feel about the whole relationship.

Forgoing the third date rule will also save you a lot of heartache. Sometimes getting involved in a sexual relationship, without understanding the person you are dating, may backfire with both the partners realizing that they are not actually meant for each other. If this happens, being involved in a sexual relationship can sometimes complicate the situation even more. So it is always better to wait for the right time, when both the partners are sure of their feelings and are ready for a commitment, before taking the plunge into a sexual relationship.

Of course, for those who are looking for some kind of sexual experimentation and adventure, who are looking for a casual fling, following the third date rule in singles dating is perfectly fine. As you are not looking for a committed relationship and are only in it for sex, whether you have any emotional attachment with the other person or not, is completely irrelevant. So if you end up having sex on the third date or even the first or second date, it is of no consequence.

In the end, all said and done, every relationship is different. The people - men and the women involved in relationships are different too. As people are different, circumstances are different, so logically how can one rule apply universally? Thus, it can be rightly said that irrespective of what the relationship forums or dating sites or articles on relationships say, do not simply follow such dating rules blindly, especially if you are a woman. Think, introspect, look into your heart, analyze your feelings and then decide whether you are ready for sex or not!