Baby blues or postpartum blues is a transient conditions of mood swings, mild anxiety, and the feeling of being overwhelmed that 75 - 80 percent of mothers face after childbirth.
If you've become a new parent or are soon-to-be one, congratulations, you've now signed up for a lifetime of worrying and wondering whether your kid will be alright. Being a mother is what we've always dreamed about and being a new mother is probably the most overwhelming thing you'll experience. On one hand, the tiny feet, coos, and chuckles are the most endearing and happiest moments of your life, while on the other, it scares the wits out of you.
Knowing that this tiny little life that solely depends on you can change you and your ways to a great extent. It definitely gives way to a new journey of learning to be a mother and rediscovering yourself as a person. You priorities in life change. All you want is the best for your baby and make sure that no harm may come to it. More vulnerable than ever before and anxious, you walk on the new-found path of motherhood.
This can definitely not be easy, but you're not alone. All new mothers go through this emotional roller coaster. Here are some of the fears that all new moms face.
Is Something Wrong With The Baby
Obviously, it takes time to understand what your baby needs. The fact that your newborn can't talk doesn't make things any easy. New parents are constantly worried if there's something wrong with the baby. They are perpetually worried about things like whether the baby is sleeping too much or too little, is it eating enough, if the development of the baby is normal or if it is crying too much. Talking to experienced parents or to your pediatrician would definitely help calm your fears.
Driving With The Baby
With all the scary statistics about children getting injured in car accident driving your baby anywhere is just nerve wracking. But this anxiety will subside with time, we know the first few times can be scary but do take your spouse along when you drive. Initially, make short trips then you can increase the duration as your confidence builds on. Of course, you need to have a few safety checks like safely securing your baby in the car seat.
Yes, you have to be extra careful while giving your newborn a bath. For the first month, it is best to give your newborn a sponge bath, but sooner or later, you have to give your delicate little baby a bath in the tub. Of course, you'll have a lot of apprehensions but there are certain things you could do to make it a bit easier. Keep everything that you need close by―soaps, to shampoos, washcloths, or towel. Work on only one area of the body at a time to prevent your baby from slipping.
Taking Care Of The Baby
Grooming your tiny delicate little baby, clipping its nails, cleaning the stump of the umbilical cord, taking care of a circumcision, or even carrying the baby, can make even the most self-assured women nervous. At times like these, you need to take a deep breath and follow your maternal instincts. You've obviously read a million books on how to cater to the needs of your baby, all you have to do is trust yourself.
The Relationship With Your Partner Not Being The Same
Of course the relationship is never going to be the same, gone are the days when you were lovesick lovers lost in each others' eyes. Now you've to look at yourselves as a team wherein if one slacks, the other makes up for it. A team that works together to nurture this being that is a living proof of your unison. With time, this bond you form with your partner will be stronger than ever.
Being a parent is definitely going to stir different emotions in you, some that you don't even know what they are about. You transition from being this happy-go-lucky person to someone whose life decisions are predominantly influenced by the welfare of this tiny little individual.
You're definitely not going to be the same, but rediscovering yourself is also a part of motherhood. This, however, doesn't mean that you say goodbye to your old self, it just means that you'll have to strike a balance between what you hold dearly and things that no longer hold the same importance anymore.
Won't Have Enough Money
Having a kid is expensive, there is no denying that! From medical bills to catering to the needs of the baby, there's just no way you can seem to cut corners. Add the pressure of getting the baby the best it deserves, and you get yourself twisting and turning in anxiety. But the truth is, it might be a good thing to not give everything your child may want. It might teach your kid to learn a few valuable lessons of life.
With a baby in the picture, your work is definitely going to take a backseat, for a few days at least. You can't just decide to work late nights because your baby needs you. At home, you feel you're not giving a hundred percent to cater to your baby's needs. In fact, almost all mothers go through this phase, but the good news is this too shall pass soon.
Sexy Days Are Over
Your body undergoes a lot of changes during pregnancy, childbirth, and the period of breastfeeding. With all the sexiness being stripped off and a body covered with stretch marks, it is definitely hard to feel sexually attractive. Neither do you have the time or the energy to pamper yourself and look pretty. With a baby ever-ready to scream, howl, and cry, finding the opportunity to get cozy with your partner can be a bit of a challenge. But then again, this too is a phase that shall pass.
Won't Be A Good Mother
Almost every parent, at least once, has definitely questioned his or her parenting abilities. With all the experts lecturing on how or how not to raise your kids, self-doubt comes naturally. Although they may have some valid points, but when it comes to raising your child, the only opinion that matters is yours! At the end of the day, if you're a good human being, you'll be a good parent too. For sure, you'll make some mistakes, but it is something you'll learn on the job.
Being a new mother definitely sows a lot of doubts about yourself and may be even compels you to wonder what have you gotten yourself into, but one thing is for sure, that at the end of the day, you definitely can't imagine a life without your kid.