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What people raised by conservative parents can relate to
Mom, can I go to well you are going to refuse anyway
Asking permission for even the most basic stuff seemed like a huge effort. You might have waited for them to be in a good mood, rehearsed the 'asking permission' drama about a 100 times. At times, you would've tried the puppy look to gain sympathy, and sometimes, would not have asked more than once, for you knew their reaction anyway.
OMG I have to rush home. But it's only 10.
You knew that asking permission for a night out with friends was futile, because your parents would obviously refuse, or take a week to think about it. Friends, fearing your parents, perhaps stopped inviting you at all. Once in a blue moon, when you were permitted to go out, you were definitely the first to leave the party.
I am having a sleepover. Sleepover? What for?
Sleepovers? Definitely NOT. Because your parents didn't know your friends' family. So, getting permission meant promising not to drink/smoke, sleeping by 11 p.m., and mentioning every member of your friend's extended family along with their phone numbers. And when your friends gush about having cool sleepovers with their partners, you just want to weep.
How dare you use such language.
Cursing? What's that? You've probably never cursed until you went to college, and if you did otherwise, you probably got a earful. What's more, as a kid, you weren't permitted to watch some TV shows due its offensive language.
I have to watch new. Oh shit, mom's here.
No R-rated or PG-13 movies. If you were watching TV at home, you were possibly watching the news channel; if not, you immediately changed the channel when your parents walked in, especially if there was a kissing scene or anything inappropriate. And you felt completely out of place when your friends discussed pop shows or sitcoms.
I am sorry mom. I am disappointed son.
With the numerous restrictions placed on you, your only way to have fun was to lie to your parents, even though you felt bad about it later. But if they did find out, they wielded their powerful weapon of being let down and ensured that you went on a long guilt trip. All through your teens, you dreamed about rebelling, yet you've never had the courage to disobey them.
I am pregnant. What? How dare you so something so outrageous?
No, the adult talk never happened. Your parents never openly discussed it, they left you to come to terms with your raging hormonal urges all on your own. And if the "s**" talk did come up, their immediate response would be, "If you have sex and get pregnant, you'll probably die or have no place in this house". Phew!
Tattoos? Not now, not ever.
Getting a tattoo, piercing your body, or dyeing your hair - a strict NO. Getting inked/pierced was a sin, and asking permission for the same was as good as signing your death warrant. If you get one secretly, you probably prayed every night so that your parents don't discover your secret.
I have to go out. What for?
Your love/social life is definitely hidden from your parents, because they probably disapprove of everything you do. No dating, no drugs, no going out more than once a week. If and when you've been permitted to go out and your friend changes the plan, you have a panic attack, wondering how to explain it to your parents. And if you miss even one call, your parents definitely assume the worst.
We have to go to church. I am sick mom.
Attending church was a compulsion, whether you have work, or you are sick, or practically anything else. Sleeping late on Sunday and missing church was not an option at all.
What the hell are you wearing?
You probably were the most conservatively dressed person back in high school and college. No matter how many layers you wore, according to your parents, your outfit was suggestive or revealing. Trying out a new fashion trend that was agreeable to your parents was beyond impossible. In fact, the fear is so deeply ingrained; you still think twice before wearing anything.
Have you started applying to universities yet?
Invariably, conversations with your parents always revolve around your career options, extra-curricular activities, class schedule, and the like. No discussion about your social life, since, according to your parents, you do not have one, nor do you need one.
I'll come with you.
Over-concerned and overprotective, your parents chaperoned you to the school dance, field trips, school functions, and more, perhaps even forced you to attend a debutante ball.
Eat like a civilized human, for God's sake.
Manners, manners, manners! They were unbelievably important. Following social graces and behaving like a well-cultured, stuffed mannequin was a rule, not an expectation. You may have heard these sentences often - 'Is this what I taught you?', 'Where is your napkin?', or 'How dare you do something like this in public?'.
I am a liberal mom. Shove that where the sun don't shine.
For conservative parents, the Fourth of July was an exceptionally important event, not just a holiday. Arch conservationism was rooted in their blood, and your liberal propaganda would have often met with staunch opposition and superior sarcasm. Like, they behaved that you would pass through this 'I am a liberal' phase. And accepting homosexuality? Sleeping together before marriage? No way.
I love you guys too, thank you for making me responsible.
As conservative and old-fashioned your parents may have been, you have always loved them and accepted them the way they are, without expecting any change. You are also aware that their love and upbringing has played a major role in making you a responsible human being with integrity.