The Grooms Speech - The Most Important Speech of the Wedding

It's the day of your wedding, the ceremony is now behind you and you are at the reception. This is the moment you have been dreading, making your groom’s speech. The father of the bride is giving his speech now, you can hear his voice in the background but you can not hear his words, you are far too nervous about giving your speech which is coming up next.

All of a sudden you hear applause, you look sideways at catch the eye of the father of the bride, just as he starts to introduce your speech. You gulp, and wonder if you are going to collapse. You have every reason to be nervous, because if you get this right you are the hero of the day, but if you get it wrong …

What happens next is mainly a consequence of the amount time you have invested in the planning and preparation of your speech. Unfortunately you have had to write and develop your speech during what has probably been one of the most hectic periods of your life. You have had to organize a wedding, a reception and a honeymoon, amongst many other things. So much to do, so many people to placate.

Although referred to as the grooms speech it is really the groom making a speech on behalf of the bride and himself. As such the groom usually starts his speech with 'My Wife and I', that normally produces a few smiles and gets the guests into a welcoming frame of mind.

You should begin your speech by thanking the father of the bride for giving his speech, and acknowledging some of the points he has made. You should then thank all of the people involved in the wedding ceremony and the reception, all the people who have come along to wish you well and who may have given gifts, and of course both sets of parents.

The thank you section is the easiest part, but now you have to open up a little and give the guests a peep into your soul, a thing that many grooms feel awkward about. You should start by talking about how you first met your new wife, mentioning the experiences that you have shared together, and what made you decide that this was the person that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.

You could mention how beautiful your wife looks today, but for goodness sake look at her just before you say it and don't just read it from your speech, or you may live to regret it later! Say how exited you feel about starting a new life together, and talk about your confidence in a long and happy marriage that lies ahead.

You should conclude your speech by talking a bit about your best man, how you met, your experiences together, and why he is so special to you. Before it all gets too soppy you should aim to squeeze in a few humorous but kindhearted digs at him. After all it's his speech next and he will almost certainly have a few embarrassing stories to tell about you. End your speech by introducing the best man's speech and asking him to go easy on you, he won't, but it's worth a try!

Hopefully your speech goes down well, because to fail at the biggest speech of your life will do you no favors whatsoever with your new wife and in-laws. Your speech needs to at the very least appear to have been crafted with love and affection for your new wife, and must not appear to have been made up in the car on the way to the reception.

Writing the speech in the first place is not easy. You could quite literally spend hours staring at a blank piece of paper or computer screen before you can think what to say after 'My Wife and I'. If you are lucky you may get some temporary relief due to being interrupted by having to check out an urgent text message or email, or to make a cup of coffee.

After repeating this cycle for what seems like an age it becomes obvious that a little help is required to start you off. You trawl the internet for any examples of grooms speeches that you can find. All you can find is poor quality, cliche riddled, and regurgitated rubbish, that your wedding guests will have heard time and time before.

Your speech must use words that you would normally be expected to use, and you must deliver it in your normal style. Anything else and your wedding guests will know that you have not written it yourself. Not only that, but because the content and style will be so alien to you, you will not feel comfortable about giving the speech, or confident enough to pull it off successfully.

Don't despair though, help is at hand in the form of books containing high quality speeches crafted by professional speech writers. The books normally contain a selection of high quality grooms speeches and toasts that can be used as they are, or sections of them can be mixed and matched to produce the speech that you want.

As the grooms speeches are all written by the same author, unlike the snippets you could have got from the internet, the speeches will be smooth and free-flowing. They can be further personalized to suit your own circumstances. The better books out there will also contain a section of tips on how to best deliver the speech to gain maximum impact.

Click on the following link for full details of The Grooms Speech - where you can get more information on excellent sample grooms speeches, and grooms speech templates, including up to thirty very high quality prewritten speeches, along with piles of sample toasts. And what's more all of this information can be on your computer within minutes from now.