The Difference Between Nice Guy and Chump

You also should be able to laugh it off but it's kind of hard to laugh at anything thru clenched teeth. You have seen it so many times that you can predict the outcome even before it happens.

That however does not stop you from wondering; in fact you ask yourself the question so much that it feels like you are going crazy. Why do so many single women say they want a good guy but always wind up chasing after the bad boy?

That's an issue that has plagued single men since Cleopatra dumped her childhood sweetheart for Mark Antony (not really but you get the idea). You've been brought up to act like a gentleman and treat women with respect.

Yet when you have met someone and then after a reasonable amount of time tried to take the relationship to another level, you were told that they are not ready or that they considered you too good a friend to even consider such a thing.

And being the nice guy that you are there was no doubt you would understand completely. As a matter of fact those were your exact words. Funny, that in a majority of your attempted dating relationships, how many times you have said that you understand completely.

Great. Your comprehension skills are growing by leaps and bounds. As is that knot in your stomach because once again while you sit on the sidelines, the bad boy gets the girl you wanted.

What are you doing wrong? It could be that you are…

1. Agreeing Too Much

You like what she said on a certain subject. You like what she says on just about every subject. You concur wholeheartedly. Even when you have a different opinion you still agree with her.

Look that might have worked in elementary school but in the grown up world, attractive women like to know what you think.

Having her opinion regurgitated back to her time and again is not flattering. In some ways it means you are afraid to express yourself which can be taken as a sign of weakness.

2. Chase Too Much

You have strong feelings for her and it shows; to the point that it borders on desperation. Calling, emailing and or texting are one thing but not knowing when to give the other person breathing room is another thing entirely. You may think it’s flattering but in essence you are probably creeping her out.

3. Everything for Her

Wherever she wants to go is find by you. Yes she has a car but hey it’s no problem for you to do all the driving. Gifts? No technically she has never actually given you one but that has not stopped you from buying anything and everything for her; even if she didn’t want or ask for it.

From your point of view, it’s just your way of letting her know how much you care. From her perspective she can’t help but think she’s got a flunky with an unlimited expense account.

You don’t want to emulate the bad boys completely. Because as exciting and challenging as they are for women being disrespected over and over again gets old.

But women do want a man they can respect. One who has his own thoughts and opinions and can agree to disagree. A guy who understands that in the dating game, being chased is a two way street and that it is more than okay to say no from time to time.

In other words you can still be a nice guy without being a pushover. Have confidence in yourself and confidence that women can tell the difference.

Article written by Daryl Campbell. Get more no-nonsense advice on love, dating & romance at The Relationship Tip.