Ten myths about mature swingers

"How do mature swingers look like? I think they are about 50-60 years old, not taking care of their family and children, thinking only of sex and thirsting for it." – said one of my friends.

People, who are interested in swinging, or even those, who think they will never start swinging have got some prejudices or mistaken points of view.

Number 1. The age is the 1st and the most popular prejudice. All mature swingers are at least 42-48 years old.
The middle age of woman in swinging is 29 years old and the man - is 32 years old. Most of the mature swingers (except those who are 21-30 y.o.) underestimate their age. And the thing is that younger swingers refuse meeting with couples who are elder on more than 10 years.

Number 2. Mature swingers divorce more often.
Divorces do not depend on swinging. More than 80 per cent of swinging families have two or more children.

Number 3. Usually people turn into swingers trying to escape some problems in family.
No. Unfortunately swinging does not solve any problems, moreover it is going to be one more exam in relationships with your partner.

Number 4. Most of the mature swingers are unscrupulous in their relations with other swingers.
They are more discriminating than those, who propagandize monogamy, but find a mistress/lover for an hour at the same time.

Number 5. People turn into swinging because of the lack of sex.
Most of mature swingers are happy in the families. The most common reasons are: the looking-for the newness of their sexual feelings and some emotional splash.

Number 6. Mature swingers are always turned on and looking for new partners every moment of their life.
Only ten per cent of all mature swingers are constantly looking for new partners. Other 90 per cent are more constant in their choice. If two couples have met and they feel convenient for swinging, probably they meet again more than once.

Number 7. They can presume the extramarital affair and they will not consider it the betrayal.
When start swinging you get the permission to do everything you want, because you have already done that. But here is the difference between betrayal and swinging: the betrayal is always cheating, and there is no need to cheat in swinging, that is why the relations in swingers’ families are more sincere and open.
Swinging rejects the lie, therefore it looks so attractive and interesting for many families.

Number 8. Most of the mature swingers are immoral people.
The mature swingers have their own moral rules. For example most of the mature swingers infuriate if they know that somebody has come in the party with prostitute. The person who does that betrays the spouse.

Number 9. They have sex on their 1st date.
That is impossible. Almost all mature swingers meet at least for 2-3 times before having the sexual date. It is very important for them to get acquainted with their partners. And it is necessary for them to understand what kind of people their partners are and if they suit each other or not.

Number 10. If you have decided to start swinging but you have changed your mind on the date, you have to do what your partner wants.
That is not true. You do everything according to your wishes. And nobody can force you to do what you do not want to.

But do not forget that psychiatrists’ rooms are full of people who tried swinging and the partner swapping. Most of them fall in love with their swinging partners or feel jealous of their spouses.

In conclusion I would like to say that mature swingers are the same people with their joys and sorrows, as the Latin proverb says: Suum quique, what means "Everybody is different".

You can learn more about mature swingers and the Lifestyle at this mature swingers site.