Signs of a Cheater

Love may be blind but you do not have to necessarily be so! Most of the people who suspect their spouse or their significant other cheating on them, they try not to confront them for the fear of loosing the loved one. However, it is equally true that there are times when a person just does not recognize the blatant signs of a cheater and continues to live the lie, until the truth slaps them in the face. So, how do you recognize that the partner may be cheating on you? Most of the people have an inkling or a gut feeling of being cheated upon. While it is true that some people do have unwarranted trust issues, but more often than not, when a suspicion is strong and nagging, you are probably right. More so, however hard a cheater may try to cover up, there are always some warning signs of a cheater, that just cannot be held back. Here are ten tell tale signs of a cheater which will help you recognize infidelity in a relationship.

10 Signs of a Cheater

Behavioral Changes: In the initial stages of the affair, your partner may often be too cheerful and attentive towards you. As the "secret love" develops into a more long-term fling, their behavior can become moody and withdrawn. It is like the feelings of that first love so, when you meet somebody new for the first time the relationship is exciting and new, you feel a buzz in the air and you’re walking on cloud nine but overtime this freshness fades and it can become a tough balancing act. This might result in the cheating partner becoming depressed and withdrawn.

The Disappearing Act: If your partner is doing the disappearing act, that is, they suddenly seem to have this urgency to work late and have all kinds of new obligations that take them away from home for long periods of time, then it might be one of the warning signs of infidelity. Even simple grocery trips may seem to stretch for hours.

Excessive Internet Usage: If your spouse spends lengthy amounts of time online, it might be one of the signs of cheating in a relationship. Most of the time he/she would be acting all secretive when online and minimizing or closing windows when you approach. You may also find him or her furiously typing and pausing every thirty seconds or so. It is more than likely, that he/she may be chatting or typing instant messages. There is nothing wrong with that per say but if they become uncomfortable when you are within reading distance, they are obviously hiding something.

Phone Habits: One of the sure signs of an affair is, when they suddenly become private about everything, especially related to the cellphone. A cheating spouse will start carrying their mobile around with them everywhere, not letting it out of their sight, always checking it to see if they’ve missed a call or text message. Once they have their conversations they would be erasing the text messages and phone logs to hide the signs of the infidelity. A phone bill is often a great tool for finding out. If it suddenly shows an increase in unexplained toll or long distance charges or you find a phone number listed excessively, then it might indicate that he/she is talking long hours over the phone, with his or her love interest.

Keen Interest in Appearance: Check out the sudden change in grooming habits or a change in the dressing style. In case of a woman, you may notice her getting spiffed up and dressing provocatively to "go grocery shopping" or to "get her hair done" . With him it is usually indicative when he showers, shaves and dresses up more than usual to "go out with his buddies" or to "go fishing."

Change in Sexual Behavior: A spouse or a partner who is cheating on their partner may either totally loose interest in sex and make excuses for it or alternately show an increased interest in sex when involved in an extramarital affair.

Behavior Towards You: They treat you abusively or with disdain, disrespect or excessive sarcasm. A cheating partner may also demonstrate an unexplained aloofness or indifference in the relationship or find fault in everything you do, in an attempt to justify their affair.

Cheating Costs Money: You might find a cheating girlfriend or boyfriend withdrawing too much money or you might notice credit card charges for gifts such as jewelry which you did not receive.

Neglecting the Children: If a partner is involved in such a relationship, you notice that they lose their ability and desire to show the children the attention they need. There is also a lack of desire to do any fix-ups around the house, like lawn care, painting, cleaning the garage, house repairs. In some cases they might turn this around on you at the same time and accuse you of never doing anything or treating the children badly.

Lack of Communication: A cheating partner will try to maintain distance with you leading to a breakdown of the communication channels.

The bottom line is, that do not be oblivious to the telltale signs in the hope that your cheating partner will suddenly mend his or her ways. However, it is equally true that charging your partner of cheating is a major deal. Remember, that false accusations can ruin any relationship. So, make sure that you have the evidence in place before confronting your partner.