Self Control & Decision Is Your Key To Change

In order to change circumstances and events in your life, you must not only be prepared to change but you must change. People often think that they can manifest millions or attract a dream relationship without the drive to change in order to accept their new desires.

In my experience change is required to bring new and better things into your experience. If you are happy and content with what you’ve got then feel free to wallow in what you have already achieved. If you desire to have more then be prepared for change.

How many times have you got all fired up about something and then only to find that your enthusiasm has dissipated into the ether? How many times have you made a firm decision and really meant it and said:

"I’m going on a diet"
"I’m quitting smoking"
"I’m not going to eat that cake"

Only to find that a few days (or even a few hours) later, you’ve given in to your own self-control and have gone back to your comfortable routine that you’re used to! This happens to everyone and it’s only because you haven’t exercised your self-control muscles enough.

Everyone has the power to decide upon something and stick to it. Consider a different situation for a moment. You’re in a life or death situation and someone is ordering you to go on a diet, to quit smoking or to eat only healthy foods. Do you think you would do it then?

Of course you would! There are two elements that help you decide that "it’s okay to keep smoking" or "it’s okay, you can start exercising tomorrow".

The first is self-talk. It can be quite easy to talk yourself out of something that you haven’t practised for very long. Your new decision has not really become a part of you yet and thus your self talk can go into overdrive and easily rationalize why you shouldn’t start the new habit just yet. When faced in our life or death situation, self talk has no place whatsoever. In fact you demand that it shuts it mouth as the situation is very serious to you and your will and emotion overtakes your self talk completely.

The second is lack of proper planning. Let’s say you make the decision that you’re going to start exercising on a regular basis. You say to yourself, I’m going to wake up early and go for a run every morning. The problem is, you’ve not planned this properly. What are you going to do when it rains? How long are you going to run for? Where are you going to run? Why are you running? What will you do when you don’t feel like running? If you plan every possible decision that your self talk will tempt you with, you’ll have an answer for everything and if you’re definite about your decision then you will follow through with it.

Next time you make a decision, ensure you plan properly and ensure you are definite about your decision. Ensure that failure is not an option.