Second Date Tips

How do you go about on your first date? Introduce each other and discuss a few trivial things like food, weather and surroundings? Is that all you need to know in a person? First date is never a reason enough to judge someone. A second date idea crops up when the first one is a success. So how do you plan your second date? As Dr. John Gray aptly puts it ~ "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus", so second date tips for both go different.

Second Date Tips for Women

Arrive a little late: Punctuality exhibited by women during second dates can be mistaken for desperation. So make sure you do not arrive early or exactly on time for the date.

Shed your emotional baggage and proceed: Do not end up discussing your dicey past if any in a second date. Men do not like such conversations and that can plant unnecessary doubts in them without a rhyme or reason.

Talk about genuine topics: This is a second date and time to know the person well. Do not chatter as soon as you settle down. Let your date initiate the conversation. Once started, ask him questions indicating your curiosity to know him.

Do not throw a finicky attitude around: Men are immediately put off by fussy attitude. Arrogance and fretfulness are two things that can destroy any relation in no time. Instead of throwing that attitude - I am what I am. Don't dare to change me!, try to keep your eyes and ears open in knowing the person well, and make yourself as pleasant as possible.

Allow mild flirting: Flirting is not really a crime as long as it is harmless. So if your date flirts a little bit, you don't have to get annoyed. Every female loves a bit of flattery and you are no exception! If you genuinely like the date, you may coyly signal a third date as well.

Do not instigate intimacy: A second date is the best time to know if the person feels genuine about you or not. So do not create any motives for your date that can get him ideas about getting physical with you. Until the friendship develops into a relationship, intimacy can wait!

Second Date Tips for Men

Take initiative and show interest: Women always appreciate men who take initiatives. It creates the interest factor in them.

Suggest interesting meeting places: Most women prefer to meet up at movie halls, museums and sporting events. So make a point to offer your girl choices before deciding the place. Believe me, girls love to be asked out to places. Also, make sure you pick her up on time and drop her back home as well. It'll definitely earn you her respect and attention.

Communicate aright: To fix a date, inform her of the plan at least 3 days before. Women always like unabridged talk. Any flaw in communication is sure to change her impression about you. So keep the communication straight devoid of doubts and flirtatious intentions.

Maintain distance: A second date is definitely not the right time to get cozy. But a little flirting such as appreciating her looks or her dressing sense or may be her way of talking is fine. Small gestures like a peck on the cheek is also permitted only if your date has no qualms about it. Women unless and until comfortable will never appreciate overly flirtatious moves. And if you are serious about your date, the buttery feelings leading to intimacy can surely wait! This is one of the most important dating tips for men.

Be honest: Honesty is the best policy is a universal truth even for relationships. It goes with earning a woman's trust which is not so easy to acquire.

Treat her special: On a second date, treat her with a bouquet of flowers or a box of chocolates or a soft toy. The lady is sure to get impressed by this gesture. At the same time do not be extravagant in showering too many gifts. This can lead to make her believe you are quite desperate!

Just be yourself: Women appreciate if men are genuine in expressing themselves. This is a feeling that comes from within. There is no pretension needed in impressing a woman. Just be yourself and you will know the results!

Some Common Tips for a Second Date

A few tips for second date common to both men and women.

• If you're interested in getting to know him/her better, then 'LISTEN', as it is the best way to understand someone.
• Observe his/her behavior to know the likes and dislikes.
• Do not jump to conclusions. Getting judgmental is as good as being blind to facts.
• Do not misinterpret dating as a relationship. After all, a second date is an evaluation check to know if the relation is worth taking forward.

"Dating should be less about matching outward circumstances than meeting your inner necessity" ~ Anonymous.

So rightly stated. I hope the above mentioned dating tips help you in making your date a big success. So what are you waiting for? Just try these second date tips and feel the difference! So go.....Happy Dating!!