Relationship Health: Don't Fence Them In

When you are with that special someone, it seems like time flies. The chemistry between the two of you is so incredible that the more you see of each other the better the relationship.

And there lies the trap which snags way too many couples. The bond becomes so strong that neither one nor the other is willing to give the relationship the necessary space it needs to breath and grow.

The reasons why this happens can vary. It can be insecurity. You can't believe this terrific person is in your life. You also have a fear of losing them so you are constantly in their air space just to reassure yourself. Another reason could be jealousy. Your significant other belongs to you and only you. Nobody is going to bud in and spoil what the two of you have. Even their family and long time friends become intruders to the relationship.

Whatever the motive, being in each other's company or in constant contact is not healthy. For one thing everybody needs time to themselves. This is doubly important considering that the majority of us around the globe are being bombarded incessantly with information. Researchers have shown that we receive more information in one year than previous generations combined received in their entire lifetimes.

That is not to say your significant other considers you part of the never ending background noise that accompanies our lives. But you can do them a big favor by giving them time and space to unwind from the daily grind.

If you are married check in with your partner briefly in the morning and encourage them to check in with themselves in the evenings. If you are dating then taking a day off here and there from each other is not going to hurt. Each one should pursue their own interest and persuade the other to do the same.

This kind of approach can panic many couples. They feel like it is vital to be in constant contact because this will show how much they really care about each other. The problem is once you get into that routine of always being together it can lead to just that; a dull as dishwater routine that after awhile has both parties feeling claustrophobic. It's almost a guarantee that when people feel trapped they look for a way out.

Giving space does not mean you don't care about the person you are with. In fact it means the opposite and more: you care enough that you are not only respecting them as individuals but also their time and space. This can make the bond between the two of you that much stronger and long lasting.

Article written by Daryl Campbell – The Relationship Tip – Giving each other breathing room is one of the essentials to a good relationship. It also doesn't hurt to practice the the 3 A's