Relationship Break

"Tis' a double edged sword, if you leave her, you'll miss her; if you don't leave, you'll feel locked up, frenzy and suffocated in the relationship. The problem isn't her, or you, to be very frank. In fact, there isn't a problem, to the core. You both just need some time, some space, for love to refill your hearts. Love isn't lost, you both have just lost track of it. It is in abundance there, but you can't feel because the mind and heart aren't able to connect, the way they used to be. Don't panic, don't think it's going to end. Taking a relationship break, if done with all efforts to revive the relationship, is a cure for any further damage and misunderstandings in the relationship. Taking a break from the relationship, is solely the choice of a couple. Try it, if you want it. It may work for you or may not. Be ready to face anything." ~ Self

That is what I think about a relationship break. I know it is easier said than done. I know just going to your partner and saying that you both must take some time apart to reassess your relationship can be taken altogether differently but then it is a far better realistic step than a sudden break up.

Why to Take a Relationship Break?

Many people think that taking a relationship break is an open invitation to more relationship issues in life. However, when done with mutual agreement and awareness, it won't have so many negative consequences as it appears to be. So gentlemen and ladies, don't just go to your partner and freak out, "I'm out of all this, for sometime". Don't even think of doing this. Talk about this step positively. Explain to your partner that doing this doesn't mean that you're ending the relationship, it is just that you both must spend some time alone, to come out as more solved individuals. Here are some reasons why anyone may like to take a break from a relationship.

• Things are moving way too slow or very fast. It seems that it was yesterday you met and now you both are just so much into each other, that seems surprising. On the other hand, you may feel everything is dull, dry and very slow. You're missing initial sparks in the relationship.
• Neither you enjoy her habits, hobbies, passions nor you're able to tell her to change things that you don't like. It is as if the routine has made you both take each other for granted. Exploring each other is minimum and you both want some space.
• Lack of love (this one is tough) after initial courtship and romancing is another reason for which, you may want to stay away for sometime.
• Your opinions and views are sidelined in any conversation and he or she dominates any decision. You feel lack of respect in the relationship.
• You're being taken for granted. You're presence isn't anymore significant for your partner. May be a break from you will help her/him to realize your value.
• You're just sticking to your partner or may be she is completely into you. Every waking hour, you find her/him in front of you. Calls, messages, Facebook; day and night, it is your partner and nothing but your partner that is the essence of your life.
• This one may sound very harsh but it needs to be mentioned. You don't feel physically attracted to her or him. If you aren't feeling the initial physical spark and you want to see, if it is really so, it is not harmful to take a break from your relationship.
• You don't have time for friends and family members. It is like your partner is the center of Universe. If you feel your partner is so much into your life, that you can't think of anything, it is time for carving out some space for yourself.

Understand that you must talk about what to do in a relationship break, in detail. You both must mutually agree on terms and conditions like how many times you will talk in a week or what will be your frequency of meeting. It is good to put limitations because if you're taking a break from relationship, there is no point in meeting your partner daily! During the relationship break, take sometime to understand yourself more closely. Try to know your true feelings and if you really feel good about everything. The more at peace you're with yourself, the better it would be. It is logical that the mere decision of taking a relationship break may sound harsh and it may also do more harm than good. But believe me, it can show both of you, the true picture.

If you both are careful about your relationship break and you want to use it productively, you will, for sure, come up with numerous solutions about problems you have been encountering in the relationship. Moreover, it is a true test if both of you are really serious about the relationship!! Understand that a decision to take a relationship break is far better than turning cold shoulder to your partner and bamboozling him or her with the news of a temporary break up. A quote by a wise man says, "If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours, if not it wasn't meant to be." I wish you all a happy and blissful life.