Relationship Advice - Little Things Count More in Relationships

Many guys out there still believe that they need to take their girlfriends on expensive dates or give them costly gifts to make them happy. However, rather than showering them with lavishness, more often than not, the little, seemingly insignificant things are the ones that count more in the relationship.
When it comes to dating and relationships, many guys complain that dating a woman can be very stressful to the wallet. These guys always feel that they have to make the grand gesture to keep their girlfriends happy. These grand gestures would often include dinners at expensive restaurants, costly gifts and lavish holidays. And then, when the breakup happens, they would be seriously clueless as to why the girlfriend broke up with them.

Obviously, these guys are missing the point. Sure, a grand gesture may impress a girl every once in a while, especially when there is a special occasion for it. But these are not enough to sustain a relationship. If a guy wants to keep his girlfriend happy, here is one relationship advice that he should keep in mind: The little things count more than the grand gestures.

Today's Modern Woman Has It All

If you are a guy, you should know that you cannot always impress your girlfriend with expensive gifts or classy dinners. This tactic would probably have worked 50 years ago, when most women were discouraged from pursuing careers and were instead encouraged to look for men who can support a good lifestyle.

Of course, there are still women out there who tend to be reliant upon the men in their lives, but most women nowadays have their own careers and their own bank accounts. They can buy whatever they want and go wherever they wish to go. Such women are no longer easily impressed by big-spending men.

Small, Thoughtful Gestures Are More Impressive

Instead of making the lavish gestures that you have become used to doing to impress your girlfriend, maybe it would be better for you to resort to small, homely gestures. She would probably appreciate these more.

For instance, if she had a stressful day at work and she still managed to cook you dinner, maybe you can offer to wash the dishes for her instead of plopping on the couch to watch basketball on TV. If you are feeling up to it, you can massage her feet while the two of you watch TV after you are done with the dishes. This can even lead to some cuddling and whatever else later on.

This is just one example. You can also offer to change the oil in her car or mow her lawn or do whatever it is that can help ease the load off her shoulders. This does not mean that you are making yourself her gopher. On the contrary, this is just a way for you to show that you appreciate her and that she can rely on you. This is what most women want in a relationship: a man who appreciates them and is reliable.

So, guys, if you want to nurture your relationship with your girlfriend, this is one relationship advice that you should always keep in mind. Otherwise, do not be surprised to find a breakup ahead of you.
   By Lea Hall
Published: 9/1/2009
 
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