Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

Getting married may seem easy, but life after marriage may not be all that blissful. Although you may know your spouse-to-be well enough to get married, there are certain agendas that have nothing to do with knowing him/her well. These agendas, if not discussed prior to getting married, can cause a lot of problems in the days to come after marriage. Though they may not seem all that important, it would be better to get them sorted to avoid complications for the two of you. A lot of arguments and fights can be averted by sitting down and discussing these issues. This is also an important aspect of the process of marriage counseling.

The questions to ask before you get married are a means of effective communication between you and your partner. There are certain questions that you need to ask yourself, too, before getting married. The answers to these will help reaffirm your decision of getting married.

Questions to Ask Before Getting Married
The questions you ask your future husband/wife before getting married should cover important subjects like finance, parenting and kids, sex, chores, in-laws, friends and relatives, pets, work commitments, holidays and vacations, leisure activities, etc. Here's a list of questions to ask before you get married, based on the subjects mentioned above.

• Do you want to have children? How many?
• How long do you want to wait before having children?
• What is your definition of financial security?
• How will we manage debts and savings?
• Will we keep our money in joint or individual accounts?
• Who will pay the bills and other expenses?
• How many hours a week do you work? What does your job involve?
• Are you willing to share household chores? What would you prefer doing?
• What is your take on extramarital affairs?
• Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
• How much time will we spend with our in-laws and other relatives?
• How often do you like to go out with your friends, alone?
• What do you like, or dislike about my family?
• How often do we each expect to have sex?
• What if one of us doesn't want to have sex, how will we deal with that?
• Do you like pets? Would you mind having one around and looking after it?
• What would you want to do on a day off? What activities do you enjoy?
• How often will we go on vacations?
• Will one of us give up our career to stay home with our child/children?
• Is there any history of mental or physical illness that I should know about?
• Do you think it is important to be faithful to one another?

Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Married

• Why am I getting married?
• What do I love about my spouse-to-be?
• What kind of a relationship do I want to share with him/her?
• Is my partner spouse-to-be affectionate to the degree that I expect?
• Will we be able to work through our marital problems without fighting and arguing too much?
• What are our differences?
• Am I prepared to face the challenges that marriage entails?

These questions to ask before you get married will surely help you through your decision of getting married and getting as close as possible to the popular myth of 'happily ever after'.