Problems in Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Continuing with I

All of us, heterosexuals, homosexuals, and others want to improve our sex life. Who wants to be alone? We regret; we can’t offer you an article, magic pill, perfume, potion, or pick-up line that will automatically send you and your intended partner or partners to the bedroom. However, I really do think that you can perk up your sex life whoever you are.

This article focuses on the problems and pitfalls that prevent you from improving your sex life. Another series focuses on what you should be doing. Both our "negative" and "positive" suggestions will help improve your sex life. We present a double series of articles for the letter I. Here we focus on immediate, inaccessible, and insecure.

I is for immediate. Immediate means like right now. Like don’t wait. Like let’s join the mile-high club as soon as the airline washroom is free. Like forget it. Like I’m a person too and you’re just going to have to wait until at least it’s comfortable for me too and if you don’t like that go find yourself someone else. Immediately. Somehow you are going to have to curb yourself if you want to score. Start working on your self control immediately. If not sooner.

I is for inaccessible. No one can get at those secret areas of your life. You are there but you are not there. If those special people in your life can’t reach you maybe they will stop trying. Think about it. If they can’t access the inner you perhaps there is no inner you, or more precisely there is an inner you but it’s so underdeveloped that there is no point trying to access it. Before you know it those special people will stop trying to access the outer you. This situation doesn’t sound like a lot of fun, for them or for you. Make yourself accessible. And as you’re at it, access other people and I don’t only mean those enticing body parts.

I is for insecure. I found out about this no-no quite early in the dating game. If you uncertain about who you are and where you’re going, you can’t really expect others to have confidence in you. There is no guaranteed secure life today. This phenomenon is hardly new. When the Great Depression (I didn’t think it was that great, and no, I never lived through it) came, lots of people who figured that they had it made jumped out of windows. When their blanket was removed their security was gone. The only way they figured they could get it back was Splat. And what about improving your sex life some eight decades later? Don’t be insecure; that’s almost a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think you can’t, you can’t. And unless you are as beautiful as Cindy Crawford, not many people will wait in line to help you get your security back.

Are you tired of all this negativity? Take a look at our companion series that accentuates the positive.