People Are Transparent
Willingly or not, a person with discernment (that usually requires a little life experience combined with a little Bible knowledge) can tell if you really mean what you say or if you only try to keep appearances.
From the sweet innocence of a child to the understanding and accepting smile of a senior filled with inner beauty, we encounter a journey full of lessons, and if we keep in mind those times of training, there are mistakes we'll never repeat. In the same time, when dealing with people, they are more and more transparent regardless of how hard they try to hide their real intentions. Why so? The Word of God says that the Maker of the universe gives discernment to those who live by His principles, that's why the more one gets closer to God, the more discernment he/she gains.
Have you been in a situation where you were wondering what to do and after making your decision, you ended up saying "I knew it, I knew it would turn like this!" This happened to me several times in relationships, I knew from the start that they won't work out, but yet, I said, well, I'll give it a try, I can't live on suppositions. Of course...it ended with the phrase mentioned above: "Yes I knew it..." I am sure you had your moments when you experienced the good advice of that small voice inside your heart or on the contrary, as I did, you tried anyway and it didn't work out.
It is the same way with circumstances as well as with people; when you are confronted with circumstances where people are hiding the truth, there are the tiny details that speak out. If you pay attention to those small details, they betray the real person's character.
I was once in a concert and the singer was smiling all the time while she was performing, yet, after she finished her song, her smile suddenly sunk in this cold face, and I thought to myself "she's not all that joyful as she seems to be on the stage". Later on that evening I went home with her and her husband and she hysterically told him what he should have performed like - he also sung that evening - and I was shocked to have that little previous hint so drastically confirmed! Well, yes you may not know the new person's temper but small fine points will give you a realistic idea about what to expect.
Don't be naive to think that if your friend mistreats other people, he will never mistreat you. Oh no, no! Sure enough it is a matter of time until you'll find that out!
If you see him/her lying to other people, rest assured, your turn to be lied is just around the corner! Look at a person and see how they treat the least important individual in their lives, because on a long term relationship, that's the way you will be treated. Don't fall for lies like "I will change him/her", it doesn't work. If God Himself did not change a person, you much less won't be able to. Even if someone will go out of their way to conquer you, they can only keep appearances for a short while, that is usually six months (of course that may differ and it depends on the kind of relationship you want to have with someone, the involvement grade and last but not least, it depends on your maturity or let's say naivety level).
Some people seem generally happy and very outgoing, yet be aware that smiles can also be used as a mask to hide the real intentions of a person. The real smiles include the eyes too, but even so, in the middle of laughter the heart can be sad as Solomon puts it. "Not everything that flies is eatable "says a good old Romanian proverb. It is the same with people and the wisdom to choose your friends carefully is a great asset and can save you from great pain.
Yes, people who don't have peace, restless about everything, trying to show off their sparkling intelligence (or lack of it at times) are not in a position of power since they need to impress everyone all the time. A position of power is where the person has inner balance (that comes from the fact that the person knows how God greatly values him/her) and does not need to impress others with different achievements.
God tells us something precious regarding this, He says in the Bible that we are to boast in the fact that we have understanding and know Him. He is The One we are to boast in, not our achievements or possessions because everything good we've got comes from The Father of Light and it is a gift to us, not something we deserve.
Yes we are transparent to our own kind and much more, to God; the only feature that makes us charming is goodness, if we are good people we are going to like the company of fine people. Keep those good people in your life, learn from them and may we all be in that category so that through our transparent lives, each and every one around us may perceive God.
Have you been in a situation where you were wondering what to do and after making your decision, you ended up saying "I knew it, I knew it would turn like this!" This happened to me several times in relationships, I knew from the start that they won't work out, but yet, I said, well, I'll give it a try, I can't live on suppositions. Of course...it ended with the phrase mentioned above: "Yes I knew it..." I am sure you had your moments when you experienced the good advice of that small voice inside your heart or on the contrary, as I did, you tried anyway and it didn't work out.
It is the same way with circumstances as well as with people; when you are confronted with circumstances where people are hiding the truth, there are the tiny details that speak out. If you pay attention to those small details, they betray the real person's character.
I was once in a concert and the singer was smiling all the time while she was performing, yet, after she finished her song, her smile suddenly sunk in this cold face, and I thought to myself "she's not all that joyful as she seems to be on the stage". Later on that evening I went home with her and her husband and she hysterically told him what he should have performed like - he also sung that evening - and I was shocked to have that little previous hint so drastically confirmed! Well, yes you may not know the new person's temper but small fine points will give you a realistic idea about what to expect.
Don't be naive to think that if your friend mistreats other people, he will never mistreat you. Oh no, no! Sure enough it is a matter of time until you'll find that out!
If you see him/her lying to other people, rest assured, your turn to be lied is just around the corner! Look at a person and see how they treat the least important individual in their lives, because on a long term relationship, that's the way you will be treated. Don't fall for lies like "I will change him/her", it doesn't work. If God Himself did not change a person, you much less won't be able to. Even if someone will go out of their way to conquer you, they can only keep appearances for a short while, that is usually six months (of course that may differ and it depends on the kind of relationship you want to have with someone, the involvement grade and last but not least, it depends on your maturity or let's say naivety level).
Some people seem generally happy and very outgoing, yet be aware that smiles can also be used as a mask to hide the real intentions of a person. The real smiles include the eyes too, but even so, in the middle of laughter the heart can be sad as Solomon puts it. "Not everything that flies is eatable "says a good old Romanian proverb. It is the same with people and the wisdom to choose your friends carefully is a great asset and can save you from great pain.
Yes, people who don't have peace, restless about everything, trying to show off their sparkling intelligence (or lack of it at times) are not in a position of power since they need to impress everyone all the time. A position of power is where the person has inner balance (that comes from the fact that the person knows how God greatly values him/her) and does not need to impress others with different achievements.
God tells us something precious regarding this, He says in the Bible that we are to boast in the fact that we have understanding and know Him. He is The One we are to boast in, not our achievements or possessions because everything good we've got comes from The Father of Light and it is a gift to us, not something we deserve.
Yes we are transparent to our own kind and much more, to God; the only feature that makes us charming is goodness, if we are good people we are going to like the company of fine people. Keep those good people in your life, learn from them and may we all be in that category so that through our transparent lives, each and every one around us may perceive God.
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