Overcoming Fear of Abandonment

Fear can be called a necessary part of life. When we are in dangerous situations, fear prompts us to take quick action. Fear can be of two types, rational fear, based on logical premise, and chronic anxiety, which is called better known as a phobia. There are various types of fears, like fear of flying (aviatophobia), fear of being alone (autophobia), etc. Overcoming fear of flying or overcoming any type of fear requires determination from the part of the person who is afraid of certain things.

Fear of abandonment is a psychological disorder wherein the person feels uncontrolled fear and anxiety when he or she encounters situations that require facing the difficulties of life alone and without any support. The person suffering from it feels helpless in case he has to face any difficulties alone. Even though he may have support and help in tough times, the very idea of being alone makes him feel insecure and uncomfortable. The loss of a near one, broken relationships, disturbed childhood and some social or personal trauma can be some of the possible causes of such feelings in people. Anybody experiencing such fears can be diagnosed by proper counseling and care. It is just the pattern of thoughts that strike the mind of the suffering person and make him feel uncomfortable.

Tips
If once you realize that love manifests itself in this Universe in myriads of dimensions., you will be able to realize that you have many things to focus your love upon. Just the failure in a job or rejection in one relationship can't possibly end the world for you. Break the shackles of fear by reading some tips, that are as follows:

• Loving someone does not mean changing your life completely for him/her.
• Love is not controlling, it's about letting it go free.
• Start inculcating healthy habits like yoga and meditation. As the inner you becomes rich, serenity and peace will manifest in your life.
• Stop over analyzing any situation. Develop the habit of taking every experience positively. It can be practiced on daily basis. Just try it!
• Forget the past and move on. Mistakes are a part of life and so are bad experiences. Don't carry the burden! Delete it from the memory. Be a new person!
• Stop being obsessed with anybody and anything. Give a tinge of humor to life. Laugh off your troubles, just let life free for sometime! See how it feels to free yourself from fear, jealousy, attachments! Just be! Just exist
• Enjoy your relationships! Just your girlfriend or boyfriend is never your entire world. There are parents and friends, spend time with everyone. Love everyone and as said earlier, don't be obsessed with every and any relationship.
• Don't think too much. Worrying is like consuming slow poison, it eats you daily! Stop worrying.
• Find out your emotional outlet! Yes, it can be writing, painting, dancing or any hobby where you create the real you. Just discover it!
• Stop expecting too much from anyone in a relationship. If there is love, it will surely blossom and will take the relationship to new levels

Winning Over Fear of Death
One of the most simple and basic fear that almost all of us experience, though in varying degrees is the fear of death. The name 'death' itself gives some shock and fear. However, it is mandatory that the fear of death does not interrupt the smooth flow of life and cause problems in day-to-day work. Don't worry about death, as it is a part of life. It has to come when it should. The only thing we can do as human beings, is to live every day by giving our best efforts and developing our inner self spiritually. Life is all about living every day with full enthusiasm and passion. Live your dreams! Use this fear of death as a motivation to become your best every day. Yes, turn this fear into a profound realization that will keep you motivated for your life. As we all say, life is very short, so why not develop an attitude that does everything with noble intentions and keeping the Almighty in mind. Simplifying your fears can help you heal faster.

Mastering Public Speaking
Many of us have the fear of public speaking and it is not that we can't overcome it. Just focus on the fact that till date, thousands of people have mastered the art of public speaking and so it is logical that even you can do that! It's just that you have to break the vicious cycle of fear. While knowledge is essential to speak in front of an audience, remember that how you say something is more important than what you say. People may not be able to get what you are saying but the pitch of your voice and the self-confidence that you exude, can create a strong impact on the audience.

Overpowering Fear of Failure
A famous proverb says that failures are the pillars of success and believe me they are! Pick up the history books or browse the net and you will find that almost all successful people had faced failures many times in their lives. One example that I profoundly remember is Chris Gardener, the entrepreneur and founder of the stock brokerage firm Gardner Rich & Co. The movie The Pursuit of Happyness is inspired by the true story of Chris Gardener's life journey to fame and riches. The protagonist of the story, Chris Gardener (Will Smith) struggles for bread and butter with his little son, however, he never lets failures break him. He perseveres to succeed. We can pick some nuggets of wisdom from the life of such people.

It needs efforts from the individual and the family to eliminate the fear of abandonment. The family members should support the person and help him overcome the bouts of negative thoughts that hit the mind. Analyzing the situation and trying to eliminate the root cause of the problem can help the person to get rid of the fear.