Our Bodies Talk

We may be very diplomatic, we can act in a certain matter, depending on the context, we can hide our inner thoughts and opinions and eventually think that we express only what we consciously want, through words. But if we believe this, we are totally wrong because our entire appearance has something to say about who we are, how we think and what we feel inside.

Firstly, we express more than words do through our body language. Our face mimic, the gestures and the body position can confirm what we are saying or can be in total disharmony with the things we claim. This element which speaks so loud and clear about what we are is frequently combined with the chemical reactions of our bodies. For example, when we lie or when we try to deceive someone, our words might come out straight and with a precise tone, but our hands can begin to tremble, we sweat more abundantly, our salivary gland is more active, the eyes pupils expand, the blood stream increases and some of us blush as a result of this. These changes, of course, are not observable for all eyes, but specialists in different domains are aware of the changes and use them in order to find out what they are looking for. For example the psychologists working for the justice are closely observing these things.

Secondly, we declare something about us by the clothes we wear and by their color. If the clothes are dirty and crumpled it means the owner is negligent and he doesn't pay much intersect on how he looks, meaning he doesn't care so much of what others may think. On the other extreme are those who are obsessed with their physical appearance and they are concerned all the time with fashion and neatness. These kind of people are insecure; they wonder whether their intelligence is good enough and they try to gain respect from others through the way they look.

It is very important to know what to wear and when in order to feel comfortable. The color is also very important, because each color wears a code. People who have a lot of red clothes are dashing people, because red is a strong color, containing a lot of energy and sensuality. It is well known that red stimulates the brain in a higher degree than other colors do and as a result the neurons produce noradrenalin and adrenaline, bringing energy to the body. So, if we know ahead of us is a tedious day, with a lot of boring activity, we should try wearing some red clothes.

On the other hand, if have a long and crowded day we should wear blue or other pastel colors, because they are comforting for the eye and they will help to look calculated and bright during the day. Dark colors used with regularity indicate bitterness or sadness or even melancholy, but if they are used only with special occasions, they denote grace and finesse.

Furthermore, we communicate the way we feel without even knowing. Our nervous system is composed by 2 parts, the central nervous system and the peripheral one. The peripheral nervous system divides into the somatic system and the vegetative one. This last component works without our conscious approval and it plays a role in the release of pheromones. The pheromones talk about the way we feel, whether is anxiety or comfort or happiness. During the day, our bodies release these substances which are unconsciously received by others and are being processed by their brains, adding further information about the person we interact with. So, a person who feels good about itself will be perceived to be more attractive than a person who is nervous or anxious. This is why is very important to have peace in our hearts, to feel comfortable with the way we are, to pick clothes which best fit us and to wear a discreet and pleasant perfume.

In the end, we reach the conclusion that words are not the only indicator that shows what happens inside of us. There are many other components which talk about us and we must be sure that the inside is in harmony with the outside in order to feel good with ourselves and in order to be perceived by the others as honest and upright persons who can be trusted.