Marriage Compatibility Test

It took Carrie and Mr Big a ten-year courtship and a huge drama on the D-day, to finally enter the, probably, happily ever after wed lock. I say probably, because every relationship is based on a lot of speculations, anticipations and expectations. That is why, before you say, 'I do', there are a lot of things you need to know about your partner. The first thing that a couple needs to know, is each others cognition, reasoning and perception. A lot of marriages fail under the garb of 'he was never like this' or 'she's changed to somebody different'. None of us change overnight. The undercurrents of the behavioral changes are always flowing strong. You just need to see beyond the physical appearance, to see the better half of your better half.

Compatibility Tests for Couples

These questions can be asked by either of the partner. In fact it is your instinctive nature, that will make you ponder over things, before getting into a marriage.

Q1: If I get back home after a long hard day at office, will you help me fix the dinner, clean the dishes and put everything back?
This question will show you, how much your partner is, firstly, caring about your efforts in the marriage. Usually, it would be women asking this question, but, in the changing times, role reversal isn't a miracle. My point is, both the man or the woman can be stuck in a situation of a 'bare it all'. Thus, before you decide to tie the knot you need to know how appreciative is your partner of your efforts. Another important aspect of this question is knowing your partner, psyche about doing things then and there or whether he/she procrastinates. The answer to this question will also highlight your partner's attitude towards keeping the home clean.

Q2: If I leave my job at some point of time, would mind holding the fort on the financial front for a while, till I can regain the capacity to start working again?
Men play the role of provider, protector and the possessor. But, what if at a given point, your man can't go on for some reasons? As a man in the relationship and even as a woman, you need to have a clear understanding of your finances, while walking towards making a family. Financial woes can lead to huge stress in a marriage and in many cases, have led to divorce too. In my advice, both the partners have to accept each other as a responsibility and support, which sticks through every thick and thin and every up and down. This test is to shed light on your 'would be' partner's understanding of your needs.

Q3: Would you like to spend holidays with in-laws and have them come over frequently?
In-laws are the never-ending debates in most marriages. The quintessential love and hate relationship with in-laws, sometimes overshadows the existing relationships too. Irrespective of whether you are a man or a woman in the relationship, you have to make your family's importance clear to your partner. Instead of being the perfectly compromising partner and waiting for the things to escalate, it is better to be clear about the expectations and the situations to come. All compromises are myths, when we know the situations beforehand. So, give your partner-to-be the right to make her/his rightful choice.

Q4: Do you like children? If we ever have children, how would we provide for them?
These questions are of utmost importance. You have to know whether your partner likes children and what is he/she willing to do for them. There are many couples who believe in adopting and many who believe in not having kids at all. However, your wants have to be clarified right in the beginning. Additionally, you also need to inform your partner about how are you going to provide for them. This will again open up a financial angle, which has to addressed before ringing the wedding bell for a successful marriage.

A compatibility test may give you a score, but it's just a number. Honestly, if you want to know how compatible you are with the person you want to be with, you have to spend as much time as you can with him/her. Try to do as many different things with each other as possible. Find out what are your likes and dislikes. The more likes you have in common, the better are your chances of being with each other, as you have the same thought process, which is the cornerstone of your compatibility. A marriage is based on honesty and integrity, garnished with a dash of spice. It just doesn't end at a gala wedding, but goes a little further than that. So, be clear about it to live happily ever after!