Marital Problems During Pregnancy

Although pregnancy is considered as the time when a man and a woman become closer, there are instances when they face big issues. These issues can be due to a lot of reasons like mental stress of having a kid, unstable hormones of the woman, the lack of intimacy and the constant mood swings. It is not that relationship issues are something new in a couple's life but facing problems during pregnancy can actually take an ugly turn and result into something disastrous.

Marital Difficulties During Pregnancy

Even the best of couples drift apart due to the various issues that emerge during pregnancy. The mother's raging hormones can suddenly cause her to become over emotional, over possessive, over critical, frustrated, sad and she can get angry on each little thing which is a clear sign of powerful mood swings.

Pre-Natal Depression
Due to the raging hormones, it is quite natural that the woman gets angry on little things and creates a big fuss over it, and she also feels depressed and lonely. The male no matter how much he tries is still helpless. The feeling of frustration caves in as the male cannot do anything to make her feel alright. He is unable to understand the reason behind all this negative attitude and avoids conversations with her, ruining the situation more.

Self Criticism
As the baby bump shows, women become more and more self-critical. She is not happy with the way her stomach looks, she doesn't like her appearance, she thinks she's fat. Most women don't even allow their partners to be intimate with them and sometimes they just don't want any physical contact; not even a hug. To make matters worse, sometimes, men also refrain from sexual contact as they think that it could harm the unborn child. Women find this gesture very hurtful and they feel that their partner is no more interested in them and is seeing someone else. This constant assumption gives birth to more problems during pregnancy.

Hogging the Limelight
The father often feels aloof because everyone is busy congratulating the woman for being pregnant. Nobody considers wishing him and he starts thinking that he had nothing to with it. He tries to be distant and tries to avoid going to any social gatherings with his partner. This behavior can also cause lots of issues between the man and wife.

Being a One Sided Relationship
If your wife or girlfriend is expecting, then be ready to hear, "You don't know what it feels like" and "It is me who is doing all the hard work." Most men will hear these hurtful comments at least once in 9 months. Ladies be careful, this statement is very hurtful and can make him wild. In response he will become rude and mean and thus you will engage in one more fight.

Planning the Finances
Before you even start of planning for a kid, make sure you can afford one. A kid brings a lot of happiness and much more expenses. If you find it hard to support the both of you, how are you going to support a third person.

Solving Marital Problems

To make sure those nine crucial months go well and the mother doesn't suffer from any stress, here are some ways by which marital issues can be solved.

• Men should understand that their partner is not going to be happy always. Though being a mother is the best feeling in the world, this experience also comes with a lot of emotional baggage. She can cry, laugh or get angry for little reasons. You have to handle that maturely.
• Talk as much as you can. Even if you had a fight, it is healthy to talk to each other and solve all the confusion. In this case a man has to be more emotionally stable and take the first step.
• Compliment her as much as you can, tell her she is beautiful, kiss her belly and talk to her stomach. Make her feel special. Do crazy things for her, take her for long walks and show your love by holding her hands.
• As far as intimacy and sexual contact is concerned, ask your doctor which sexual positions are safe for the mother and the child.
• Ladies make sure you involve your partner in every decision you take about the child. Fathers need to feel that they are still considered important when it comes to the child. Take him to every doctor's appointment and make him part of everything you do.

I hope couples who are pregnant understand how marital problem during pregnancy should be handled. Remember it is necessary to share everything at this period. It is necessary that you share your happiness, fear, insecurities, problems and feelings. This will make life easier and happy to live.