So, you saw him and felt butterflies in your stomach, or is he a friend, who you see in a completely different light now? Well, either way, it is, probably, love that you are feeling. Here are some questions, along with their answers, that will help you to know the right way around this new path of love. Many lovers go through such situations in life.
# 1: "I met this new guy in school. I like him, and he seems to like me too. But, he is not asking me out. What do I do?"
Well, I know what you are going through. In fact, almost all women in the world have gone through this. Believe it or not, guys are far more shy when it comes to relationships as compared to girls. Their main fear is of being rejected. More so, for younger guys, they also fear their reputation, right? You need to make it clear to him that you like him. Flirt with him, but not in a slutty way. Be there for him when he needs someone, and spend time with him whenever you can. Keep giving him hints that you like him. Once he gets the point, he will ask you out.
# 2: "He has been my friend since we were little. But, lately, after he broke up with his girlfriend, I think I have deeper feelings for him. What do I do? Is this love?"
The only one who can decide whether this is love or not is you. However, even if you like him in a new way now, you should let him know. Since you are friends since a long time now, you are likely to know each other quite well. So, let him know that you are not interested in any other guy and that you are happy that his relationship with his ex-girlfriend ended. Drop him subtle hints about your change in feelings, and get a bit more romantic with him. Hug him closer, and look more intently into his eyes when he is talking to you. At a very romantic moment, give him a small kiss.
# 3: "We just started dating. He is a nice guy, and I love that about him. But, he has not even tried to kiss me yet. I know it's weird, but it is bothering me. What do I do?"
It is not weird; many guys prefer to delay the kissing. This is because they do not want you to think that they are with you for the making out, but they really like you for your mind. You should be lucky that you have found one of these rare guys. You are not to be blamed for wanting him to kiss you, seems like he is really worth it. But who said only the guy can initiate the first kiss? Take charge girl. You are a strong, independent woman. Get to know how to go about doing it for the first time. Once you make the first move, he should not be bothered about doing it again.
# 4: "We just started dating. He is hot, and I know he has super hots for me. But, after the regular kissing, we find that we are just sitting in silence. Seldom do we talk. I really like him, and don't want to lose him. What do I do?"
Ok, the fact that you are asking this question proves that you like him. You'll need to get to know each other. Often, the reason why there is silence in a relationship is because there is no other motivation for accompaniment other than intimacy. You can change that. Show him how interesting you are. Check out these topics to talk about with your boyfriend. There are many questions that you can ask to know the other person, especially when you are in a new relationship. This should help to kick start your intellectual bonding.
# 5: "I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. We are totally in love with each other. He wants to get more intimate, but I am not comfortable with that. What do I do?"
Sex is not just about wanting; it is about love. If, as you say, he loves you the way you love him, then he will understand your discomfort. Many girls make the mistake of giving into physical intimacy, when they are not ready for it. Most do it for fear of losing their love. Pay heed to this advice: if he loves you, he will wait for you. If he does not agree to wait, he is not worth the attempt. Nonetheless, there are many things you can do, other than sex, that will help you two to bond physically (for instance, phone sex). You can try it if you are fine with it. If he still insists on sex knowing that you are not ready, then he is indeed not worth it.
# 6: "We have been going out since a while now. But I just met a friend of his, who I am very attracted to. I love my boyfriend, but I really like his friend. I feel like I am in hell. What do I do?"
Yes, dilemma can ruin the peace of your mind. The best advice in such a situation is to discuss this relationship issue out with your boyfriend. But, before you do that, decide if the new guy is worth putting your relationship on the rocks. At the time of discussing it with your boyfriend, if you are still undecided, he will be pissed off. Hence, decide first. If you love your man too much to risk your relationship, then tell him to keep his friend away from you, and to give you more attention. If he loves you the way you love him, he will do anything to keep you happy.
Love is not a joke, and it can really change the way you perceive and go through life. It makes the beats of your heart slower and faster at the same time. Yes, it is true that only the lucky ones get love in life. So, if you find it, cherish it and hold on to it.