Long Term Relationship Going Nowhere?

Do you remember when you both first met, when you looked at each other and the world stood still and two became one? Sadly, over time, that something special faded and what you were left with became something mundane. Does a spark still burn deep inside of you or has it fizzled out because you just can't bring yourself to believe in it anymore?

One thing is for certain, no matter what has happened, if your long term relationship is going nowhere then you just cannot keep on drifting in limbo, you need to take stock of your situation and work out how to move forward with your life. I guess that deep inside of all of us is deep seated desire to find that someone special with whom we can make our lives together and grow old, together. Is that the kind of feeling that you have with your partner, but your partner doesn't seem to share this and is reluctant to move the relationship on? A lot of people are scared of commitment, they see a high divorce rate, they've probably got friends and family who have divorced, maybe they are just plain scared of something going wrong, and that they lose the relationship that they have with you.

It could also be the case that they've come from a broken home and maybe marriage for them is not something special. There is a saying that familiarity breeds contempt.
Sounds pretty harsh doesn't it, what I mean is that your relationship has grown into something comfortable, so, if your partner is getting all the benefits of marriage without the commitment then maybe they're happy with it and aren't prepared to make the change for something that they view as new beginning.

Have you both reached the stage when you are just going through the motions, you don't really have a life, just an existence that neither of you know how to change. Take a step back and evaluate your situation! If you been in your relationship for a long time and your partner still keeps finding excuses not to marry, then I'm sorry to say that the chances are that it will never happen.

If you've been together for long enough, then you should know your partner well enough to be able to judge whether they will marry you or not. What you need to remember is that your time on this planet is finite and as such it is a very precious resource, are you prepared to devote years of your life to something that will not bring you any lasting happiness?

Don’t waste your life in a relationship that's going nowhere, if you really want to get married and your partner is unable or unwilling to respect your wishes in this, then is a one way relationship really worth it?

Before you make your mind up as to what action you are going to take, there are a few things that you need to consider. Is your partner your best friend? Can you really imagine life without them? Can you imagine never seeing them or speaking to them, again? And the most important question do you still love them? If you can't see things ever changing to give you a life where you can be happy then you need to give your partner an ultimatum. Explain to them just how important marriage is to you and if they won't marry you then I think that you need to call it a day and find a new life. If your partner truly loves you and doesn't want to lose you then they will agree, if they don't then find someone with whom you can have a fulfilling relationship and be happy. Remember, you have invested time and energy into your long term relationship and you deserve better than to have it going nowhere.

I genuinely hope that you are able to resolve situation so that instead of being stuck in a long term relationship that's going nowhere, you have a relationship that really going places!!!