Lingerie Buyers Guide for Men

Men are lingerie buyers and regardless of the reasons, men love buying sexy lingerie. So what is a man to do when he buys his lover lingerie to insure a good result? There are a couple of things men as well as women should keep in mind when putting down good, hard earned money for lingerie.

1. Men need to remember that buying lingerie for her whether she is a wife, girlfriend or bride to be should be all about her. All too often men buy lingerie based upon what he likes or what he wants her to wear. Perhaps men should recall that memory of his mother buying him that "special shirt" or "outfit" that he could not bear to be seen wearing. Women love wearing lingerie and sexy lingerie but they don't necessarily love looking like a hooker or exposing body parts that they are not that confident about, even if you thinks she is crazy for thinking that way. Of course, you love her, thinks she looks so hot in an open bust teddy or crotchless panties but she must be the main factor in buying her lingerie.

All is not lost since you can still and should buy her lingerie but ask yourself "will she enjoy wearing that"? Will my wife want to wear that a second time or a third time? Do her sensibilities allow her to wear that outfit? If the answer is no then do not buy it no matter how much it turns you on. Consider that making her happy is the objective, isn't it? In addition, don't you want her to enjoy herself trying it on, wearing it and perhaps having her picture taken wearing it? Also, consider that life is a journey and just because she would not want to wear that extremely sexy garment tonight your consideration today may give her the confidence to trust your judgment in the future when it comes to choosing her lingerie.

2. Sizing is so very important that it can ruin or almost ruin whatever fun and excitement you might otherwise have when buying her lingerie sends a couple of bad messages. How do you feel when you receive a gift of clothing and it is too small? First, you are not going to wear it, as you need to take it back and get another size. In addition, you may be a little irritated to upset that the person who bought you the shirt did not bother to get your correct size. Finally, if you needed to wear it that night then that option is no longer available.

Consider that lingerie, unlike shirts or pants are often skimpy, transparent and very revealing. So the size issue is exaggerated as well as lingerie is often given to a wife to wear right now, like go in and change into that skimpy, short baby doll so I can see you in it kind of urgency. When it does not fit, your plans may be dashed. Get her size correctly as a boyfriend or husband who does not know his girl's sizes is not funny. You are expected to know her sizes and the failure to have that knowledge can be viewed as insensitive or uncaring. Rummage around in her closet for sizes or take a look in her panty drawer, every woman has at least one and get the sizes.

Colors and Styles: Use your head and it will pay dividends! I often hear men and women say "why pay that much for lingerie that will only stay on for 2 minutes"? A part of that attitude stems from the reality that much of the lingerie purchased violates the first two sections of this guide. Hint: Buy her lingerie that accentuates the positive and minimizes the negative. All humans have body parts they like and others they might change if they could. Women often love their stomachs or regret they are "too short". If she has full, curvy breasts then buy her something that emphasizes them. If she has a bit of a tummy then buy her something that does not expose it or actually hides or slims that area.

This applies to color as well as a light skinned woman may look best in a hot, winter color such as burgundy or emerald green while a deeply tanned or dark skinned woman may actually pop in a cream or white garment. If she hates orange by all means, buy her orange- just kidding. Treat her with respect here and you will be rewarded. All of us want to be respected and buying a woman is a great way to show that while your desire her, want her badly you still must respect her, as she deserves that at all costs.

Listening to her is the best method to make it possible to know her limits in naughty lingerie . Is she prim and proper then there is plenty of demure and sophisticated lingerie. If she is spontaneous and a risk taker then sheer and exotic lingerie may make her very happy. What if she is dull and boring and thinks sexy lingerie is silly? Buy her simply yet very hot separates like a lace bra with matching stretch lace boy shorts or a baby doll that is sexy but very wearable. Women are sensitive creatures and most do not care to look like the girls on girls gone wild. While she may be unwilling to express her sexuality in the manner you wish she would you are also entitled to express your opinion in this regard with respect. Over time, you will be surprised how she changes as long as you keep in mind that whatever steps she takes in this regard must be consensual and voluntary. Learn to accept her the way she is and offer her options that do not violate her sensibilities and she might surprise you.