Law of Attraction: One Size Does Not Fit All

I don’t have to tell you how many great people there are offering books, products, and services about the Law of Attraction. And I have to say, I appreciate them all. They’re awesome people and provide remarkable information; and there have been times when what they provide came to me at just the exact moment I needed it. However . . .

Nod your head if you know what the "however" is . . . Why doesn’t it always work for Me? It’s a question shared by many.

Some manifestations are easy-peasy, aren’t they? Some aren’t. Even though you practice patience, trust right timing, affirm out the wazoo, hold your fingers a certain way, burn a candle and utter incantations, follow any and every technique . . . there’s a moment when you ask, "What the heck is going on?" only maybe you don’t say "heck."

The Law of Attraction works. You know this. It’s those darned limiting beliefs that are stopping you from getting what you want in certain matters. Some are immediately obvious, some are not. It’s the ones that are not that hold you back. I faced this one myself when I had the feeling there was a metaphoric switch that needed to be flipped regarding one particularly stubborn-seeming area of my life.

The realization came to me that using the Law of Attraction is like finding the right diet or way of eating that works for you. You know that some people follow a plan and they drop the weight. You follow the plan and either not much happens or you gain. Why? You’re a unique individual. Maybe your body metabolizes the recommended food items differently, or you don’t even know you’re sensitive to certain ones. The common theme or thread is that an eating plan right for you will work.

It’s the same with the Law of Attraction. Maybe what would assist you is to discover which individual beliefs or triggers are buried so deep that you can’t see them, but you definitely feel and live the outcomes they create no matter how exactly you follow someone’s steps.

One way to do this is to ask the right questions rather than immediately look for the right answers. If the answers were obvious, you’d know them already.

If you feel stuck right now, a good exercise as a first step is to write down every expectation from others that may be attached to your energy . . . from family members and childhood to friends and associates in your life now. You’ll probably notice how some of these expectations contradict each other. You may realize that the only person you haven’t heard from or listened to about what you’re "supposed" to do in every area of your life (to create your personally fulfilling life) is you.

When the time is appropriate, take several minutes to do this exercise. See what comes up. The only reason someone doesn’t have the life they truly desire is because something at the inner level stops them from having it. Maybe it’s time to call it out, call it what it is, and find your appropriate way to go beyond it.

One thing I’d like to encourage you to do is stop thinking you must once and for all Get It Right, otherwise known as the Perfection Infection. You are a process. Your life is a process. Learning, growing, and expanding into who you are and desire to be is a process. If you not only make peace with the process, but make it your soulmate, you’ll feel stronger and more self-empowered than you’ve ever imagined possible.

Joyce Shafer (jls1422@yahoo.com) is a Life Empowerment Coach and author of I Don’t Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say and How to Have What You REALLY Want (lulu.com). Discover how to make the Law of Attraction work for you as a unique individual (and get in on the coaching special available until July 30), visit http://www.freewebs.com/coach4lifebalance
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